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Inner Peace Comes From Discipline and Training.

Good news for us Westerners, we love taking action! Except, this isn’t the kind of action you are probably thinking. When we think of “action” we think more of a strong movement in a forward direction towards a specific desired outcome. The type of action I am speaking of is a lot more challenging for us. Slowing down is the action that leads us to the internal bliss that we are seeking.

In the past, the Western Hemisphere hasn’t exactly set us up for success when it comes to internal peace. It’s totally possible now and becoming easier and easier, but we have to create some strong habits and boundaries. If you are in the Western world with me, you know that we have been conditioned to GO GO GO and DO DO DO. We have been taught to be achievement-based, which is fun! We are here to evolve and expand, but many people seem to be forgetting a really important piece of this puzzle.

 

We are spiritual beings having a human experience

Not the other way around. Our spirit/soul incarnated into a human body. When we transition into our next form (die), our spirit will leave the human body, and we will be free-roaming energy. We are the awareness of the experience. The watcher of the thoughts. Not the thinker. When we become conscious that we are not our thoughts, we can become free of stress, anxiety, worry, and fear.

 

Our soul needs discipline in order to reach heightened states of performance and fulfillment.

You might have resistance to discipline if you have inner conflict about your current standards.  This happens when something within you knows that you are capable of more but you are resisting it because you feel safe where you are. The unknown is scary. Inner peace requires training in areas like breath-work, meditation, and yogaThere will only be resistance if these habits are new and need to be built.

 

When we are children, our parents, teachers, and community leaders set the “standard”.

Sometimes the example that we witnessed was not congruent with what we needed, but that is what we saw, and so we adopted it as our own.

Now, you are an adult and you are free to make the decision to recreate your personal standard. You need to adjust your internal thermostat to the temperature that you DESIRE in each area of your life.

Are you living up to your potential in each area? Are you holding on to a story that is holding you from stepping into the next level?

 

Send me an email and let me know what new habits you are adopting as you step into the next version of yourself. Inflate your new truth with life as you write it and make it a tangible form. Once you share it, it is alive! 

 

 

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Managing Your Anxiety In Uncertain Times

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Managing Your Anxiety In Uncertain Times

 

Here are some of the ways that I am keeping my vibration high and the fear at bay during this worldwide transition phase. Also, as we welcome the pollen. (I have a stuffy nose & have presumed I am dying at least 10 times already. Ha.)

As a lightworker, it is a crucial time for us to be conscious of everything that is affecting our energy. This means getting really good at being mindful of yourself and everything that is happening in your body. What is happening when you begin to feel anxious? 

We have to maintain our former rituals and routines AS WELL AS create newly updated rituals as the universe shifts and transitions into a new reality.

#1 Have The Courage To Trust Your Inner Knowing

You are a divine creature. There is nothing more powerful than the GOD CONSCIOUSNESS within you. You have source energy within. Tap into this wise inner-knowing and trust what is coming through!

#2 Have Compassion When Fear Creeps In 

Your fear or anyone else’s- including your animals. We are all shedding different layers of our egos. Help your people out when the fear is creeping in and allow them to do the same for you. Show compassion and empathy when you or someone else is feeling scared. All low vibrations stem from fear. 

#3 Accept The New Reality 

There is only the present moment. This is all happening at one time. There is only NOW. This is the only reality that you need to know. Release attachment to the way things “should be” and begin exploring how sweet it is in the present moment. There is MUCH less to worry about. 

 

#4 Meditating More 

Stop making excuses. You can’t skip this step on the journey to happiness. Grounding and happiness come from knowing thyself. You must go internal and silence the noise in order to calm your body and get to know yourself. 

We meditate before there is a difficult situation in order to create a pocket of peace for us to return to throughout the day. Remember how good you feel when you finish meditating. This will keep you coming back. 

 

#5 Taking Social Media Detox’s 

Social media has a tendency to make us feel like we are not worthy enough. We see these glimpses into other people’s lives and think that their lives look like that all the time. We can’t look like that all of the time, so we begin developing these little fears of inadequacy. Spend time in nature and away from the screen. 

 

#6 Journal and Reflect

Explore the information that you are consuming. Explore the experiences that you had throughout your day and what they meant to you. Did you meet the mark? Did you get distracted and procrastinate? Did you beat yourself up about it?

Reflect on the all of the experiences without judgment. 

 

#7 Set Clear Intentions 

You can’t have what you won’t ask for. Be clear on what you want and vocalize it as often as you can. If you intend to meditate more, tell someone that will hold you accountable. Write it down and affirm to yourself and the universe that you are going to make it happen. 

Be clear about your intentions in each segment of your life. When you wake up and begin your morning routine, set an intention. And again when you begin moving into your workload, set a clear intention.

 

#8 Listen Deeply

As a lightworker, we want to do things to empower and raise the vibrations of others (when we are on full ourselves). Don’t engage in drama. Simply hold space by not saying too much. Ask more questions and stop sharing your experience to connect. It is a self-defense mechanism when you try to find any way to connect so that the person will like you. Release the need for them liking you. They will likely enjoy you more because you feel more authentic.

#9 Creating Inspired Content/Art 

Follow your highest inspiration in each moment. What lights you up? Get out of your own way and start creating. Don’t worry about the outcome. Focus on enjoying the process.

#10 Tea Ceremonies As A Defense

I have acquired a taste for tea. Now I love to have tea ceremonies. I light a candle, play some binaural beats, and sip my hot tea. This gives me a mindless task to engage in while I allow my mind to settle down. I am also washing any potential threat in my throat down with the warm liquid. 

#11 Yoga and Movement

I love yoga because it is challenging for me. I am easily triggered by certain positions to the point that it takes my mind away from all of my worries. When I finish my yoga practice, I realize how calm, centered, and balanced I am. 

Connect to your breath through movement. It’s not just a trending fad, it is a practice that leads to fulfillment and joy.

 

These are just a few ways that I am creating patience, compassion, love to defend myself from the drama, chaos, and fear. If you are seeking support in finding confidence and clarity, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I am looking forward to talking to you.

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Speak Up Saturday: Fuck Your Feelings

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Speak Up Saturday: Fuck Your Feelings

 

As a student of life, I disagree with always following your emotions/heart.

 

Of course I am a believer in following your heart when it comes to inspiration, but it can get you into trouble. We are divine beings with emotions that can get in the way of us making rational decisions. I have personally seen what happens when I follow my heart rather than my principles- It’s chaos.

When I follow my heart, I end up SO INSPIRED by so many things. I find it incredibly challenging to create a plan and see it through to completion because I am constantly being inspired by new things!

Trust Your Intuition

Your body knows the difference between a “yes” and “no”. When you practice connecting with your intuition, you can even get colors for the answers you receive. (My “yes” is yellow and “no” is red.) It is important to trust your intuition, but….

You Can Tell The Difference Between Your Intuition and The Denying Force That is Not You.

There are emotions that we have that create resistance for us. We can call this the denying force. This is the voice in your head that says

“We don’t have to go for a run today, the world is on a break, so are we”

or

“one more piece wont matter”. (It does matter)

This voice will become easy to identify now that you are listening for it. It is not you. This is the denying force and it needs to be murdered. (Yea, it’s that extreme!)

 

The Denying Force Is Keeping You Small.

There are going to be times where you know that you need to get something done and you aren’t feeling it. This is when I say

 

Fuck Your Feelings.

You want to achieve something and the denying force in your brain can certainly hold you back if you aren’t prepared, but now you will be! 

It will take time and practice to notice this voice more clearly, but when you do, you can start taking action against it. This is going to take extreme effort.

You are going to have to go against the thing that you have believed to be what you want. You are going to have to do something to give yourself a powerful jolt of energy that will shock you back into the reality of your desires and truth. 

You feel shitty when you follow the denying force because it is not you. 

Take massive action in effort to counter this voice in your head.

The reward will be 10 fold because when you do something that you don’t want to do, you will feel 10X as proud and accomplished.

Notice when this is the voice that is speaking and affirm: 

I know my true self and I do not reduce myself to this denying force that is keeping me small. 

Don’t succumb to the limiting voice. Ask for strength. Meditate. Repeat the mantra listed above. Don’t always listen to your feelings. Do you agree? Disagree? It’s Speak up Saturday, so SPEAK UP! Let me know your thoughts in the comments. 

 

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10 Ways To Be A Leader During Social Distancing

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10 Ways To Be A Leader During Social Distancing

 

This blog is intuitive information that resonates as truth with me. I am sharing a few ways that you can stay grounded, but most importantly- You are a conscious leader. The world needs us right now. This is how we can rise up and lead with love. 

We know that there is a virus. Do not being so naive to believe that this is not real, or that it is like the common cold. This virus is brand new and does not have a cure as of yet. It is taking lives and it is spreading rapidly. That is the reality.

Hospitals are not prepared for something this catastrophic. There are limited supplies. 

I personally am not concerned about my own health. I take great care of myself and I am going to share the steps I am taking. Please don’t assume that you are safe because you are young and healthy. It is not only about you. You can carry this virus a-symptomatic for up to 5 days. Don’t be selfish. Take consideration and do what you can to prevent this from spreading. 

 

The Most Important Thing During This Time Is To Vibrate Above the Drama. 

There is something obviously happening and it is lowering the vibration of the entire world at once. We need to focus on the nature aspect of this virus. People are going to die, but we can prevent the spread of this. It doesn’t have to be as bad as it COULD be, but we have to start acting like it is serious, because it is. Take the steps to keep your vibration as high as you can.

Drama is anything that is not the truth. Be mindful of the misinformation that you are spreading. (Read more on raising your vibration)

There are elderly people that don’t have to go into public. This will reduce their chances of being infected and possibly facing death. 

 

Being Prepared Is Not Being Paranoid

We can prepare in so many ways. I will tell you personally, I feel that I am paranoid. Perhaps I am just prepared. I don’t know if it’s the military conditioning, the PTSD from childhood trauma, or legitimate concerns? Maybe it was the scary quarantine movies? Who knows…. But, I personally am preparing by taking these steps: 

 

 

#1 Washing My Hands More Than Ever. 

I am taking this seriously. I am washing EVERYTHING. I am using the high percent sanitizing spray on anything that I have to touch. I am using Clorox wipes and disinfecting spray on the frequently touches places in my home and office.  I am using soap and hot water and washing up to my elbows every time that I wash my hands. I am also sending loving-kindness (Metta) each time I wash. 

 

#2 Using Oils

I am not sure if people are using Clorox wipes on their hands, but hopefully, you know that is not effective or good for you. The chemicals are actually removing good bacteria that you need to protect you from viruses. Tea tree oil is antiviral. While there is no evidence that I have found that supports tea tree oil killing COVID-19, I still believe that it is helpful in raising my vibration. I am applying it to my hands, belly button, feet, neck, and pashmina. I am also using lavender because it is calming. 

 

#3 Meditating More

I am a pretty avid meditator. This recent virus, in addition to my course launch, has made me feel called to meditating more. I am meditating in the morning and at night. Actually, I will be going live every night at 9 PM CST hosting a worldwide peace meditation until this is over in effort to raise the vibration of the world. 

 

#4 Going Slow

It is super important to pay attention to what the world is doing. During different seasons, we feel called to react a certain way. For example, in the winter, we often feel reclusive and reflective. In the spring, we feel refreshed, renewed, and creative.

The season of this virus is calling us to go slow. It is challenging us to go inward and notice discomfort. It is also challenging us to come together as a community and support one another. Take the message, slow down. 

 

#5 Not Panicking

Kinda speaking this one into existence, honestly. I am not freaking out by any means, but I am certainly on edge. The virus has a lot of my attention and energy, so I am just doing what I can to keep my energy high and to remember that this is NOT the only thing that is happening in the world right now. 

Panicking isn’t going to do anything but lower your vibration and make you more susceptible to contracting the virus. I know it is going to be incredibly challenging for you to just “stay calm” if you haven’t been practicing mindfulness ALREADY… just do what you can. Remember to breathe. Also remember that no matter what, this life is temporary. Nothing real can ever be destroyed. 

 

#6 Staying In As Much As I Can

We have been informed that it is best for us to practice social distancing. I don’t think that this is a bad thing. It certainly doesn’t have to be. We can use this as an opportunity to deepen our connections in a different way, considering most people weren’t practicing actual connection before this pandemic. 

 

Staying in doesn’t mean you can’t communicate, show compassion, and be courageous. Maybe you use this time to go live on your Facebook for the first time and share how you are feeling called to be a leader. What are you doing to keep your vibration high?  

 

#7 Eating Healthy Nutrients 

Eating healthy is not a temporary or short term thing. This is a lifestyle that becomes easy when you have a clear “why”. If you are only trying to live up to someone else’s standards, a healthy diet will not be high on your list of priorities.

If you are practicing self-care and deeply loving yourself, your nutrition habits will automatically fall into place. You will not even consider eating the same way that you used to when you were unconscious.

It’s easy to ignore what you are consuming when you are ignoring everything else as well. As soon as you start to pay attention- everything becomes more and more clear. YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT. You DON’T need to eat animals with every meal, or ever really. 

Consuming the trauma that animals are experiencing before their brutal murder is causing disease. Believe it or not, I don’t care. I choose not to eat tortured animals because of my own spiritual practices. 

I am also drinking ginger and tumeric shots and celery juice. 

#8 Not Touching My face Or Others 

Obviously your facial cavities are where you contract the virus. Not touching your face reduces your risk of contracting the virus. Simple, don’t touch your face. If you aren’t up for this level of discipline, do what you would do to a child. Use gloves or some type of reminder on your hands or face to keep you from touching it.

Maybe we all just need cones. Hehe. 

 

#9 Practicing Distant Social Connection

“They” (whoever they are) are telling us to practice social distancing. I am all for this because I need a retreat anyways. However, I know that it is a crucial time for conscious leaders to rise up and be influencing others. We don’t need to be in-person to make this impact. We can do this from the comfort of our own homes in many ways. 

 

We can make 

  • Videos
  • Blogs
  • Podcasts
  • Art

We are conscious enough to know that panicking is not going to serve us. Only 10-15% (at the maximum) of the world is currently consciously creating and manifesting. That’s not a whole lot of people. That means that the other 90-85% is unconscious. I don’t know if those numbers are completely accurate, but they seem close to me. 

Keep yourself at a safe distance (6 feet) from others until this virus is better understood. 

 

#10 Surround Yourself With Positive People

This is a crucial time to keep your vibrations high and your risk low. Conscious Leadership Course is a 6-week ONLINE Course to assist you in shattering your limiting beliefs and confidently embody heart-centered leadership. This would be the perfect course to keep you mentally well during this difficult time. 

Meeting with a group of other high vibe individuals will keep your attention on something better than this damn virus. 

We can beat this. We can come together and assist others in raising their vibration and consciousness. We are united. I am here for you. If you are ready to enroll from a place of inspiration (NOT FEAR) then let’s fucking go. I am ready to start sending you the work. 

Let’s make something amazing of this extremely challenging transition period. 

 

Do what you can,

whatever that looks like for you. I plan to go live on one of my social media platforms every night and hold space for meditation. I want others to see the actual steps that I am taking to be a conscious leader. 

You can be a conscious leader as well. You already are one. How can you transmute this energy into positivity? 

I encourage you to keep a list of things you are grateful for, as well as a list of the good that is coming from this situation, even if they are difficult to find. 

NOTHING REAL CAN BE DESTROYED. No matter what, your life is temporary. I don’t mean to scare you, but I hope that you see that this life is temporary and it is important to enjoy it while we are here. 

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Intimacy: Beyond Sex

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I am in deep reflection mode following a recent separation from my romantic partner. I have always previously struggled with codependency. I also have had an extreme fear of intimacy and abandonment. It’s a whole slew of strengths that I have that are being activated. Keep in mind as you are reading this that this is my truth, that does not mean it has to be yours. Take what resonates and leave the rest. 

 

What if we changed our idea of what love is “supposed” to be?

I invite you to take some time to reflect on what love means to you. What does it mean to be loved? What would it look like if you were being fully loved? 

 

Women have been trapped in this belief that we NEED a man. We don’t NEED a man, we need ALL of the men. We are interconnected.

 

Thousands of years ago, men were triggered by fear because women were completely expansive when they were receiving love from many partners (this doesn’t even have to mean just sex, just loving support). The men were intimidated by this freedom and flow, so they shut it down and tried to lock us all into marriage and seperation. 

 

Side note, on many occasions, have caught myself subconsciously watering myself down to allow a man the opportunity to “fix” something that didn’t really need fixing. That’s insulting to both parties.

 

Thinking about being with someone for 20 years and going through a separation sounds like the most painful dish on the menu, but underneath the main course, there is something far worse. 

 

Could you imagine being in a relationship that made you happy for 10 years, and miserable for the next ten years, and deciding to STAY because you were taught to “ride or die”? 

 

So much of the content that we consume on a daily basis is a part of the mental programming that you are confined by. The songs that we listen to are so catchy that we don’t notice they are GLORIFYING toxicity and abuse 🙁 G-easy and Halsey always make me feel like getting in a relationship just to feel heartbreak. #Cray

 

We aren’t made to only receive love from one person. We are meant to receive love from ALL. Our universe is abundant

 

Clarity on what “love” and “intimacy” actually means.

A dear soul brother asked me “what does it look like when you are being fully loved?” 

 

AHA MOMENT. 

 

In that moment, I realized love is coming to me at all times from so many different people, including the most important player, MYSELF. Love is something that you can turn on and off. It is a gift that you can give at any point, but you do not have to. You can feel it at any point, no matter where you are or who you are with. 

 

For the first 24(ish) trips around the sun, I thought that “intimacy” meant “sex”. I was taught by stepfather that sex was love. That’s how you show people you love them, you have sex with them. (Shout out to you, Johnny!)

 

I am still working to shed some of that trauma and redefine what it means to love and be loved. I had a profound insight while I was driving (always while I am driving it seems). 

 

My insight is this:

 

We can receive intimacy from our friends and family. 

Whether we are in a romantic partnership or not, we still need love and connection. When we enter a relationship, it is imperative to have other connections in your life so that you are not completely dependent on receiving something from one source. That is a tragic block.

 

Most romantic love is (and should be) conditional. We can love someone without being with them, but we must have boundaries. It is much easier to share unconditional love with a best friend or a family member. That is why it is important to love your partner like you love your friends. 

 

You have been taught that you need a partner and it’s not true. It is only your truth if you adopt it. You are a wholeass person. You don’t need someone to complete you.

 

Loneliness is a mindset created by fear.

Something happened within this lifetime or a previous one that made you feel uncomfortable being alone. There was some guilt, shame, or feeling of unworthiness and now it is blocking you from living the best life available to you.  

 

Being alone can be triggering. 

It forces you to connect with yourself. It’s even worse if you are alone and desperately seeking connection online. 

 

Loneliness is a spiritual gift like anything else. 

It is a blessing in disguise. 

If you are feeling lonely, the only thing that you can do is focus on that which you have control over. Energetically contribute to the love tank within your current relationships. Surrender to the moment and turn your attention to strengthening your spiritual connection. Listen for your spirit guides and see where you are intuitively guided. 

 

If you are craving intimacy, 

Try giving a family member a call and asking them about their day. Hold space for them and create a safe environment for healthy communication. Start building that trust and learning how to communicate effectively. 

 

I was thinking about my brother who also recently went through a romantic separation. I thought “We don’t need partners when we have each other! I can get my intimacy from him and he can get his, from me!”

 

Obviously, there are other needs that are fulfilled within a romantic partnership that is considered to be inappropriate by most, so my brain immediately started in with the criticizing voice of no-reason. 

 

“Whitney, you can’t get intimacy from your brother!!” 

 

But that isn’t true. That is the conditioning. I receive an intimate, loving connection from my brother, my mother, my best friend, my best friend’s husband, my dog, etc.

 

Intimacy is when you allow someone to see you completely. It is being vulnerable enough to grab your friend’s hand and say “Everything is going to be alright.”

 

 

Intimacy is not just sex. 

I am still working to re-frame the way I view love, but now I know that I will never return back to the Whitney that I once was.

She was angry and wanted to control every single move that her partner made because she was TERRIFIED that he might leave. Turns out; that doesn’t make people want to stay. 

 

Get your fix from your family and friends.

Learn your love language and share it with your homies. It is safe to be vulnerable. When you hold that space, you will give others permission to do the same. If your “friends” don’t like your vulnerability, get new friends that are open to fulfilling your needs. 

 

All humans have the desire to be touched, it’s not weird.

My love language is acts of service and physical touch. I recently told one of my dear friends my love languages and I have noticed small things that she does to fulfill those needs for me. Something as simple as moving my crazy hair for me when it’s jacked up. 

 

It wasn’t a big deal, it was just my hair, but I felt like she heard me, and she was there for me. It means a lot when you can do these small things for your people. Touch your friends. Hug them longer than they expect. Take a deep breath and release it before you let them go. 

 

We are being starved for attention because people are terrified of being vulnerable. No one can hurt you unless YOU give them permission. Step up to the plate and lead with love. Open the door for others because they are too scared to do it themselves. 

 

What does intimacy mean to you? Has it changed since reading this? I would love to know what your thoughts are! Drop me a comment and let me know how you’re feeling and what your amazing brain is thinking <3 

 

Update: Please stay up to date on the virus and create social distancing for the time being. This virus will end and we can go back to being intimate. In the mean time, you can still be intimate by holding space for others and listening deeply with compassion. 

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