7 Ways To Boost Your Self Confidence

Self Confidence is Self-Care

How confident do you feel right now? Everyone has a different answer depending on their present situation, time of the day, or maybe after a cup of coffee. It’s not always easy to consistently feel confidence in yourself, especially when faced with the stresses that life inevitably throws your way. I’ve written out seven different ways that you can give yourself the little confidence kick you need for when that happens. After all, investing in your confidence is investing in your self-care.

Confidence isn’t Arrogance

Do you ever feel like you’re not enough, or that you’re too much? What about when you’re around co-workers or friends, and you can’t shake the feeling like you can’t be yourself. Your feelings are real, but they are not reality. All too often, everyone’s perception of others around them is based on your own feelings, which can be exacerbated by peers who may be feeling similarly.

When you’re focused on your personal growth and success, you aren’t paying attention to what other people think about you. Sometimes it can feel like you’re being too ambitious or arrogant. Confidence isn’t arrogance. Believing in yourself is not vanity – it’s self-empowerment. The most confident women that I have ever known, KNEW that they were amazing. They were not afraid to admit it, because they knew that anyone that they wanted to be around would also recognize their awesomeness.

Practice

No one is born confident. Just like everything else that you have mastered, confidence is a learned habit. It is something that you can practice and become better at. Fake it til you make it. Imagine yourself as a character that is confident, and act like you already have it (because you do). Deep inside of you, you know that you are an amazing, badass, woman, and you can start acting like it at any moment. Depression, anxiety, and PTSD will add a layer of difficulty, but practicing as a part of your daily routine can help reinforce treatment and therapy.

Practice Humility

Confidence is sexy when you are kind and loving. Make sure that your confidence is coming from a loving, sincere place. Always remember what it is like to be the self-conscious girl. Practice compassion. You have no idea what kind of trauma someone else has experienced. You DO NOT need to unscrew other girls light’s to make yours shine brighter. Combine your light with everyone around you and be authentic so that other ladies feel comfortable to shine brighter with you. We all win this way.

Know Your Tribe

Since the beginning of time, humans have had tribes. Without a community, we become depressed, have low self-confidence, don’t feel a sense of belonging, or know our purpose.

There are individuals that have yet to experience their spiritual awakening and don’t realize that we are all one. And then there are your people, that share the same dreams and values as you. Maybe you aren’t quite vibrating at the same frequency that they are, but with some life coaching and spiritual mentorship, you can learn how to raise your vibration and become the best version of yourself to attract the best crew for you.

Make Health A Priority

Have you ever left the gym NOT feeling more confident? If you don’t like the gym, I suggest looking for an alternative resolution. Get moving. You can rock climb, hike, rollerblade, practice yoga, join a spin class, etc. The list goes on. Health is not only about what you look like. It affects your mood, sleep pattern, and YOUR LOW CONFIDENCE. Eating a healthy diet and getting proper rest and exercise will help your confidence significantly. Set some weekly health goals for yourself. 20-minutes of exercise 3x per week is much better than none at all.

Practice Meditation

When was the last time you took some time for yourself? Daily meditation practice is a great way to slow down, and allow your mind, body, and spirit to align. When you take a holistic approach, you are opening communication with the universe. Profound insights arise when you retreat to silence. When you return to your natural state, you begin to realize the things that are truly important.

Invest Time and Love in Yourself

There are many ways that you can invest in yourself. Facebook and meetup are places where you can find local and online workshops. Educating yourself is a great way to build confidence. A life coach can help you to find your blind spots and understand where your lack of confidence is stemming from. You don’t know what you don’t know.

There is so much that you can learn from having someone asking you questions that you might not think to ask yourself. A coach will help you learn and grow. Do you know what happens when you learn and grow? You begin to feel more confident in yourself! Find a coach that offers services that resonate with you. If you want to feel more confident, find a confidence coach.

If you want to heal your heart, release stuck energy from trauma, and passionately fall in love with your life, check out my online coaching program –The Goddess Heart Healing Circle.

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Success Journey Transparency

Everyone has a Unique Story

I often hear people talk about being self-made and I call bullshit.

EVERYONE has had someone helping them at one point, EVERYONE has had challenges, and everyone has had to climb.You can not analyze your success or wins based on where someone else is because not only do they have a different script and story, but they also have their own narrative behind the scenes.

There are things that have happened in your life that gave you a clear advantage, as well as things that gave you a clear disadvantage.

It’s Your Journey

You are not on someone else’s journey. Imagine where you were 6 months ago, and how you dreamed of being where you are now. There is no sense in focusing on the things that were difficult or challenging unless you are taking the time to analyze how it made you better or how you might be able to improve.

It is easy to allow your attention to drift from the things you do well onto the things that you are not as good at.The universe gives you more of what you focus your attention on, so it won’t do you good to spend a bunch of time empathizing over things that didn’t go well.

Simply observe that your plan did not work the way that you originally planned and do not resist it. Sharing these experiences can help you to understand them and what they mean to you.

Are You Being Transparent?

When you are new at something, how much do you reveal about the journey?

Are you scared of sharing the things that did not go well, but never hesitate to share the things that are going incredible? What is the difference? What is holding you back from sharing the behind the scene “fails”? You don’t have to share everything with your followers or friends, but it is good to share the raw stuff. People notice this transparency and appreciate it.

Whether you are starting a new art project or creating a business, there will be trial and error. One thing you must learn to be a successful entrepreneur is that we all fail. Good entrepreneurs have just learned to love finding new ways to make things work.

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

–Thomas Edison

If You’re Afraid

I understand that you might fear to show the world what you got, or how you got it.

“What if they steal my idea!?”
What if they think I am incompetent
What if they think that I need more coaching myself?
Okay, first of all- no one can steal your idea.

No one is you, and no one can replicate your ideas. Trust when I say that there is an abundance of everything for everyone. As a coach, I know that the most important part of my life is going with the flow and being open to being coached myself.

There is always something to learn.

Adopt the mindset that everyone is your teacher and see how much you can learn. Other individuals on their journey will see your errors and transparency and they will become inspired and see the potential in themselves!

My Mission

My mission is to create a beautiful life for not only me but for the generations that follow me. In order to create a beautiful, happy, healthy life for myself- I challenge myself to improve the lives of everyone around me (to include you!). I intentionally share my good and bad days with the people that I aim to inspire.

I am here to inspire people to start taking steps towards becoming their ideal self. This is the most successful point that you can imagine yourself reaching. I aim to do this because I love being around people that are happy with all aspects of their life.

Positivity is infectious, and if you think you don’t need a coach then you might ask yourself why you are resisting the idea of someone assisting you in identifying areas of your life that could improve.

I want to help you find inner peace, improve your confidence levels, increase your business, and improve your relationships.

Does that sound like something you need? Schedule a free consultation today.

 

Managing Anxiety | Part 2

If you have not already checked out part one, I recommend starting there. Stay consistent when building these new habits and I guarantee you will yield results.

Music

Invest some time in listening to healing music. Classical music is amazing because it stimulates both the left and right side of your brain, allowing them to synchronize. Furthermore, classical music is like a massage for your ears.

You can also try tuning in to 528hz. This is the sound of the earth and the sound of love. Hence, the claims that this frequency is said to have repaired and restored DNA as well as bring inner peace and happiness.

There are other frequencies that are called Solfeggio frequencies. By listening to these frequencies, you will raise the vibrations of your body. Above all, everything around you is energy, and if you are vibrating low, consequently you are susceptible to falling ill, having anxiety, and being unhappy. Raise your frequency, baby!

Go Green

There is nothing more healing than being surrounded by our loving and judgment-free earth. Nature doesn’t care what you look like, or even what you think about yourself. Nature is unconditionally loving and similarly imperfectly perfect.

I live in Kansas City, Missouri where the weather doesn’t always permit me spending time outside. Therefore, I improvise by having plants all around me. The plants have healing energy and they also clean your breathing air!

Another aspect that I thoroughly enjoy being a plant mother is that I get to nurture something and keep it alive and well. As a result, my maternal instincts really adore this.

Hug someone

Touch is an important part of healing. After trauma, it can be difficult to want someone to touch you. Don’t force anything that doesn’t feel comfortable. Ask yourself “Do I want to be the type of person that gives out hugs to make people feel better?”

If a chance arises where you feel safe to give someone a hug, take the opportunity. Chances are, they need the hug just as much as you do. I am talking about a full-on, heart-to-heart hug. Squeeze your friend and let them know you care.

Give someone a genuine, healing hug, and see how it affects you. If you are not ready to hug someone, I suggest that you find an animal to hug. Dog’s are the best for healing!

Meditate

This practice is the most important assignment you have. Meditation is not about the amount of time that you are sitting! Rather, it is about consistency. Find a time that works best for you, I recommend when you are waking up, or when you are going to bed because it is easier to build a habit around the same time frame daily. Sit for at least one minute per day.

You literally have no excuses to not be doing this. Sitting on a pillow or chair, closing your eyes, and doing an internal body scan. What is my body feeling? Is there tension or tightness is any specific region? Are my eyebrows furrowed or jaw clenched?

Above all, focus primarily on your breath and how each one of them makes your body feel. Repeat this daily.

Find your tribe

Have you ever seen a field of lightning bugs? They glow in a synchronized manner. For that reason, they are attracted to each other. They know that they are more powerful when they function together. Similarly, we are not attracted to the individual that survives completely alone.

Rather, we are attracted to the person that plays well with others. Humans are here to observe an experience. When your mind and heart are open to experiences, you are able to feel more love and see new opportunities.

There are women (or men) out there that are waiting for you to come out of your shell and be with them.

Change your mindset

What are you expecting to gain from each experience? If you enter each day with the mindset that you could possibly be wrong and are open to receiving more information so that you can accurately adjust your opinion, then you will experience a life of least resistance.

When you make a decision, and you are embarrassed that you are wrong, you tend to hold on tightly to this idea. There is no need to cling to thoughts or ideas. You are free to change your mind about things when you gain new knowledge. There is no “right” or “wrong”, there just is.

You don’t need to defend the old you. Success is about adaptability. So, change the way that you are receiving information and the way that you are showing up for yourself. Finally, when you are open to being wrong, you have the opportunity to grow and learn.

Love

You subconsciously make every decision because of a feeling that you want. If you are making the decision to stay in a state of constant anxiety, it is likely because you are more afraid of what will happen if you break through that barrier. Maybe you don’t think you will be able to stay close to the current people around you if you outgrow them? (This seems to be common.)

It is selfish to hold yourself back out of fear that you will lose someone. Out of love for yourself, you must allow yourself to grow and evolve. When you reach your highest self, you are able to do so much more and feel true joy and inner peace. Even the best coaches, mentors, and healers need their own professional “backup”.

When you invest in a coach, you show the universe that you are ready to give, which shows that you are also ready to receive.

If you have read this far, I have faith that you are ready to take the next step towards finding inner peace, confidence, and equanimity. Don’t hold yourself back any longer. Make the move today. You deserve it.

I am passionately assisting many women in reaching their highest selves. I am ready to coach you so that you can start living your best life as well. Set up a free 30-minute consultation to be sure that I am the coach for you. I love you!

How to Manage Anxiety | Part 1

Identify triggers

It is not uncommon for anxiety attacks to arise when you are in a relaxed state. Take note of things that you notice around the time of your anxiety. The more that you understand about your anxiety, the easier it will be for you to start gaining control. A few questions that you can ask yourself to better understand where your anxiety is stemming from;

Are you aware of what is causing your attacks?
Where you are experiencing resistance in your life?
Are you neglecting any personal needs?
Are the attacks occurring at a certain time of the day?
Is there something that consistently gives you anxiety?
What was happening right before you started to feel the attack arising?

Move around

When you are moving, you are growing. Moving and showing your body love feels good. There is also a newly gained confidence and a feeling of accomplishment when you get your blood flowing. If you are regularly moving your body you will also experience results like better sleep, more energy, mental clarity, and many other physical benefits.

You don’t necessarily have to go to the gym to get the blood flowing. There are millions of videos and workouts posted online that you can accomplish in the comfort of your own home. Make sure that your goal is realistic for you. 20 minutes of exercise, 3x per week might be a great start for a healthy individual who does not have a regular exercise routine. If you’re not feeling the gym, throw on your favorite jams, and have a dance party at your house! Dancing is so liberating and fun. It doesn’t matter how you move, just move! Shake your shoulders and wiggle around! Do what feels natural and makes your body feel good. By moving around, you are breaking up any energy blocks or tension that could be stuck in your body.

Creative expression

Humans enjoy creating differently. If you aren’t sure of what you enjoy creating, it is time to begin exploring your options. There is something out there for you, and if you are struggling to find a creative outlet- you can make something up! Some individuals enjoy creating jewelry, pottery, paintings, stories, and even things like taxidermy!

Letting out a little creativity can do a world of good for your psyche. There are different phases that your body must go through to maintain balance, and one of them is allowing yourself to create something. Maybe you splatter paint all over a canvas, or something a little more structured like writing a short story about something that you love. It is okay if these things don’t feel as if they come naturally to you. If you are trying something new, it generally won’t feel natural. Try to focus on enjoying the task more than being good at it. If you enjoy whatever you are creating, you will naturally become more skillful. Skillset is a result, not a requirement.

Positive affirmations

Which do you think comes first- Success or Positive Self-Talk? Imagine a life where you focus on nothing but the positive things that you have accomplished. The universe pays attention to the things that you focus on and delivers more of that to you because you are activating something called the Law Of Attraction.

“I am constantly growing and evolving into the woman that I desire to be. I am a woman of value and integrity. I build healthy, valuable relationships. I set boundaries with people I love because I respect myself”. –Whitney Sause

Having a hard time coming up with some positive affirmations? Check out my weekly wisdom/affirmation give-aways, where I will send you weekly positive affirmations and nuggets of wisdom to stimulate you and your new positive mindset.

Practice Yoga

Yoga is the perfect way to center your mind, body, and spirit. Yoga is also great for calming your nerves, and genuinely nurturing your body. There are many different kinds of yoga classes available, so take the time to find one that is best for you.

If you live in the Kansas City area, I recommend Karma Tribe Yoga in Westport or InBliss Yoga in NKC. Look up the different types of classes and see which one best fits your personal goals and needs. Don’t give up!

Write Freely

I like to refer to this as an “information download”. I prefer to use the old-fashioned pen and paper method because the style of your handwriting adds an extra element of creativity that a computer will not display. Set aside a certain amount of time to write freely without worrying about spelling, grammar, or topic. Let your hand write whatever it wants to.

Turn off all distractions, find a pen that you enjoy using, get in a comfortable position, and start writing. You might come up with solutions or answers that you weren’t even aware you were seeking.

Recap & What to look forward to in part 2

In part 1 of How to Manage Anxiety, I covered identifying triggers, moving around to break up stuck energy or tension in your body, having a creative outlet to maintain balance, using positive affirmations to add life to things that are going well and attracting more positive experiences, practicing yoga to center your mind, body, and spirit, and lastly, Freewriting as a way to reflect.

Next week, in part two, I will release 7 more techniques to reduce and possibly eliminate anxiety from your life.

Creating new habits and sticking to them can be a challenge, but seeing them multiple times can really help them stick with you. It might be beneficial to write these 6 steps down in order to further your familiarization with them.

If you are experiencing extreme anxiety, please seek professional help immediately. It is important to take care of yourself and get to the root issue so that you can live the best life available to you. I am currently assisting women in their transformation and would love to connect to see if I am the right coach for you.

If one or all of these have helped you in some way, please feel free to share your growth experiences so that we can reach other women and inspire them to start making these positive changes as well.

Managing Anxiety

Not everything is always going to be “peaches n cream” right? Sometimes things get stressful. That stress causes anxiety.
Anxiety can feel so overwhelming that you can’t seem to focus on anything else in your life. You have work, bills, appointments, relationships, and all sorts of other things that can cause stress in your life.
Where is this anxiety stemming from? Are you having memories of something traumatic from your past?

Anxiety can become crippling. It can keep you in bed, not wanting to do anything for yourself. It can be scary. You’re in places and suddenly out of nowhere, you feel like you can’t breathe? Or maybe you are like me; My attacks came when I was at rest. I would be lying in my bed at night watching T.V. and it felt like someone was sitting on my chest and my heart was skipping beats. I thought I had a heart murmur. In fact- I thought it was the end of the world. Everything was. I felt so defeated.

Meditation

helps me let go of the thoughts that don’t serve me. I am able to be fully present in the moment and focus on what is actually happening, vs what COULD happen. Living my life with fear was not something I enjoyed. I had to let go of the thought that something MIGHT happen.

Being true to myself, my needs, and my boundaries.

What I mean by being true to myself is not doing things just to make other people happy. Giving from a loving place is a beautiful thing that I really enjoy, but when I am giving more than what I have- I end up stressed and resentful. I must set boundaries when I am making plans. I ONLY participate at my comfort level. This eliminates a lot of stress for me, and my anxiety attacks are now nonexistent. If someone invites me to go somewhere that might be a stressful environment for me- I am able to politely decline the invite, rather than saying yes just to please them.

Act vigilant 

Stay off your phone while you’re walking, don’t use headphones, be aware of your surroundings, don’t walk alone at night, and stay away from dark and deserted areas like alleys and parking garages. It is okay to be hyper-vigilant. You are normal, and you are just watching your 6 like we were trained to do. The thoughts that you have around that are JUST THOUGHTS. It is not who you are, and it does not define you. It is normal to be aware and cautious. You are not paranoid.
The more aware you are of your surroundings, the less likely you are to be a target. But you must also remember that you can not stress about things that have not happened. Living in fear will only hinder you from reaching your full potential.

Maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

I know for me personally- if I am not eating healthy, sleeping, and exercising- I am more anxious. Getting a full night’s sleep is SO IMPORTANT. When I don’t get enough sleep I am on edge, jittery, nervous, and anxious. Balance in your life is crucial when reaching your full potential. When you get the exercise that your body needs- it boosts your confidence, makes you feel stronger and more able to take care of yourself. If you are feeling unable to defend yourself it makes it very hard to feel safe, which can create a lot of stress and anxiety. Get your sleep, give your body water and healthy nutrients to keep your mind clear, and exercise so that you feel capable of taking care of yourself.

Being fully present in the moment and only focusing on “what is” vs “what could be” is a major key in reducing stress and anxiety. Stay vigilant. Remember that it is okay to be cautious and aware of surroundings. This does not mean that you are paranoid or damaged. It is healthy to be independent and aware of your surroundings. Treat your body with love and respect! Getting the proper rest, diet, and exercise can drastically change the way that your body feels. Having mental clarity can really make a difference in your life.

When you get in your car every day- the first thing you should do is put your seatbelt on and check your mirrors. I do this every morning when I wake up. I adjust the mirrors of my life. I am prepared for what is going on seven cars ahead and behind me. Of course, this is a metaphor, but you understand the concept. Being aware of the present moment is all you will ever need.

Feel free to email me if this has helped you in any way, or if you have other ways of dealing with your stress and anxiety. I would love to hear what they are!

Make a great weekend, my sophisticated savages. I love you, all.

-Coach Sause