7 Ways To Boost Your Self Confidence

Self Confidence is Self-Care

How confident do you feel right now? Everyone has a different answer depending on their present situation, time of the day, or maybe after a cup of coffee. It’s not always easy to consistently feel confidence in yourself, especially when faced with the stresses that life inevitably throws your way. I’ve written out seven different ways that you can give yourself the little confidence kick you need for when that happens. After all, investing in your confidence is investing in your self-care.

Confidence isn’t Arrogance

Do you ever feel like you’re not enough, or that you’re too much? What about when you’re around co-workers or friends, and you can’t shake the feeling like you can’t be yourself. Your feelings are real, but they are not reality. All too often, everyone’s perception of others around them is based on your own feelings, which can be exacerbated by peers who may be feeling similarly.

When you’re focused on your personal growth and success, you aren’t paying attention to what other people think about you. Sometimes it can feel like you’re being too ambitious or arrogant. Confidence isn’t arrogance. Believing in yourself is not vanity – it’s self-empowerment. The most confident women that I have ever known, KNEW that they were amazing. They were not afraid to admit it, because they knew that anyone that they wanted to be around would also recognize their awesomeness.


No one is born confident. Just like everything else that you have mastered, confidence is a learned habit. It is something that you can practice and become better at. Fake it til you make it. Imagine yourself as a character that is confident, and act like you already have it (because you do). Deep inside of you, you know that you are an amazing, badass, woman, and you can start acting like it at any moment. Depression, anxiety, and PTSD will add a layer of difficulty, but practicing as a part of your daily routine can help reinforce treatment and therapy.

Practice Humility

Confidence is sexy when you are kind and loving. Make sure that your confidence is coming from a loving, sincere place. Always remember what it is like to be the self-conscious girl. Practice compassion. You have no idea what kind of trauma someone else has experienced. You DO NOT need to unscrew other girls light’s to make yours shine brighter. Combine your light with everyone around you and be authentic so that other ladies feel comfortable to shine brighter with you. We all win this way.

Know Your Tribe

Since the beginning of time, humans have had tribes. Without a community, we become depressed, have low self-confidence, don’t feel a sense of belonging, or know our purpose.

There are individuals that have yet to experience their spiritual awakening and don’t realize that we are all one. And then there are your people, that share the same dreams and values as you. Maybe you aren’t quite vibrating at the same frequency that they are, but with some life coaching and spiritual mentorship, you can learn how to raise your vibration and become the best version of yourself to attract the best crew for you.

Make Health A Priority

Have you ever left the gym NOT feeling more confident? If you don’t like the gym, I suggest looking for an alternative resolution. Get moving. You can rock climb, hike, rollerblade, practice yoga, join a spin class, etc. The list goes on. Health is not only about what you look like. It affects your mood, sleep pattern, and YOUR LOW CONFIDENCE. Eating a healthy diet and getting proper rest and exercise will help your confidence significantly. Set some weekly health goals for yourself. 20-minutes of exercise 3x per week is much better than none at all.

Practice Meditation

When was the last time you took some time for yourself? Daily meditation practice is a great way to slow down, and allow your mind, body, and spirit to align. When you take a holistic approach, you are opening communication with the universe. Profound insights arise when you retreat to silence. When you return to your natural state, you begin to realize the things that are truly important.

Invest Time and Love in Yourself

There are many ways that you can invest in yourself. Facebook and meetup are places where you can find local and online workshops. Educating yourself is a great way to build confidence. A life coach can help you to find your blind spots and understand where your lack of confidence is stemming from. You don’t know what you don’t know.

There is so much that you can learn from having someone asking you questions that you might not think to ask yourself. A coach will help you learn and grow. Do you know what happens when you learn and grow? You begin to feel more confident in yourself! Find a coach that offers services that resonate with you. If you want to feel more confident, find a confidence coach.

If you want to heal your heart, release stuck energy from trauma, and passionately fall in love with your life, check out my online coaching program –The Goddess Heart Healing Circle.

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Ascension Symptoms 2019

Ascending is rising or increasing to a higher level. Could there possibly be symptoms to you waking up? I recall feeling drained when I was experiencing my awakening, however, I do not think that your ascension or awakening is the cause of your symptoms.

Ascending is an amazing, wonderful, and powerful experience.

We are all capable of ascending to our highest self. (Which is actually no-self; I will be addressing this in an upcoming blog!) Some of the effects you might be experiencing

Feeling Tired

Are you experiencing sleeping problems? Tossing and turning at night? Are you are feeling drained during times of the day when you normally would not be? Letting go of old familiar routines and situations can be both frightening and exhausting.

It is possible that you are exhausted because you are identifying/noticing the resistance in your life that you did not see before. This will not last forever. So much positive energy is coming your way!


In a room full of people do you feel like you are all alone? Are you distancing yourself from normal social activities that you used to enjoy? Are you becoming uninterested in some of your existing relationships (or all)?During your ascension, you may start distancing yourself from others because you notice that they are not on the same path that you desire to be on.

You are beginning to realize what is important to you, and if others values don’t align, you might be wondering where they fit in your life. I encourage you to embrace this loneliness. When you take the time to get a clear idea of your ideal self, you grant yourself the life you desire, which includes the friends that you have wanted all your life.

You may not even know what kind of friends you truly want. Take this time to figure that out.

Expanded Curiosity

Something amazing within you must have been awakened for you to be reading a blog like this! It is likely that you are interested in:

  • Having new experiences that seem more healthy
  • Looking for material to read
  • Searching for activities that you truly enjoy
  • Taking the time to try new things in order to discover what you love rather than being stuck in the same old routine

Trust your intuition! If a new opportunity arises, adopt the “what do I have to lose?” attitude.

Since I began living my life with that type of attitude, I have had more INCREDIBLE experiences than I could have ever imagined. (I will be sharing some of these life-changing experiences in my podcast- The Healing Sause Podcast!)

These are just a few signs that you are growing, adapting, ascending, and evolving. The most important thing to remember is to have fun along the journey. If you are not having fun, what is it all for? You are only as limited as you want to be. Continue seeking truth, and wisdom & equanimity will follow.

If you need help setting and reaching your goals through this time, a life coach might be perfect for you! I specialize in ascension. I am here to help you understand and navigate your awakening.

Schedule a free consultation with me today! I am ready, are you?

Finding and Maintaining Flow

Were you “in the flow” and now you are trying to find your way back? Or maybe you have never been in the flow and you’re ready to find out what that even means? Are you wondering if it is even possible for someone as angry as you to reach a state of complete bliss? The answer is yes. You can reach equanimity.

There are always going to be new situations arising in your life. You cannot control the happenings in the world around you. So, how do you stay in the flow with new things constantly arising?

Think back to the last time you felt like you were in “the flow”. If you don’t know what this feeling is, or have never experienced this feeling, keep reading. Maybe something in this blog will inspire you to have this experience. I would explain this as my feeling of One with the Universe. It’s the complete acceptance of everything that happens. Free of resistance, anger, fear, and confusion. Everything feels like it is aligned perfectly.

Do a life scan

If you can, find a quiet, calm place with a neutral temperature to do this. Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes, and imagine what your life would be like if it were PERFECT. Have you ever imagined this?

What would you do with your time?
What career would you have?
Who would you be friends with?
How much money would you be making?
What kinds of things would you and your friends do?
What would your perfect Saturday evening look like?
As a result, you can begin to get a clear image of who it is that you are working towards becoming. Furthermore, you can start becoming that ideal image.

What should I keep in my life?

Think about what habits you want to posses when you are at your peak point of success?

Write a list of things/habits you currently have. Which of those habits would you like to keep?

Think about the people that have everything in life that you want. In contrast, what characteristics and qualities do they possess?

What habits should I get rid of?

We all have that one thing. Consequently, It’s like our spirit is screaming at us to stop doing it, but we can’t. Whatever unhealthy thing that you are passionate about- let it go.

You thought it for the reason that you know it is bad for you. Write it down. Set the intention to allow yourself to let go of the attachment, and then let it be.

Don’t repeatedly kick your own ass because you continue to indulge. Enjoy it if you are going to make the decision to do it. Above all, you show me that you are ready to let it go because you are reading this blog.

Make a list of the things that you do daily that you do not want to do any longer.

I know first hand how hard it is to quit things that you are addicted to (including drugs, alcohol, and anger). Just by writing these things down, you are planting a seed. You are setting the intention on who you are becoming. Therefore, you have taken control.

Trust the process

A rock in a riverbed is stuck in the same place, resisting the flow. The water is calm and persistent. It continues to flow around anything that is in its path. The rock is heavy and does not move with the current. As a result, the rock slowly begins to diminish. The body of water takes away from the rock.

If you are in the water (flow, universe, alignment) allow yourself to flow freely. If there is resistance, like the rock- you will begin to diminish. You must have trust in the universe and in yourself.

Don’t burn yourself out

Always remember that 6 months ago, you dreamed of being where you are now. Just keep pushing, keep grinding. You’ll get there. Don’t ever forget that the most important thing is the ride.

A great way to avoid getting burned out is to keep a journal where you list the things you are proud that you accomplished every day, and a list of at least three things that you are grateful for.

If you don’t think you have anything to be grateful for, try doing your morning routine with your eyes closed.

Take action

You don’t get to sit on your bum and watch the universe start working miracles for you. You know that you have to identify things you love about your life, get rid of the things you do not love, and remain grateful.

You have to stop complaining about the past and start taking steps towards a better you. The only person you need to be better than is the person you were yesterday.

As an ascension coach, I can help you identify where resistance is occurring in your life, how to get rid of it, and be in complete alignment with the universe. Time is the only limit.

Schedule a free consultation with me today.

11 Ways to Feel More Confident

Dress your personal best.

This doesn’t mean that you need to spend a bunch of money on clothes and accessories to impress people. This means; dress to the best of your ability. Wear something that says

“I respect myself, and so will you.”

Dress to impress as often as possible, because it makes you feel good about yourself! Wake up in the morning and start your day by putting on something that makes you feel like the BOSS that you are! You never know who you might meet! In other words, always be prepared to make a great first impression.

If you are on a budget, I recommend Ross, Marshalls, or Arizona Trading Company.

Get a hobby.

Life is short. You don’t have time to waste worrying about the things you did wrong. Find something fun that you love to do, and do it! By finding a hobby that you truly enjoy, you will feel better about yourself because you are trying new things and doing activities that you enjoy. Your brain will naturally react to the positivity in your life and bring you more pleasant things. Thus, making life more enjoyable and leaving you with less time to spend on negative thoughts that don’t serve you. All that you have in this life is your happiness.

If you are unsure of where to start, I recommend checking out KC Crew. They are a wonderful organization that has many different leagues such as; Volleyball, softball, karaoke, and more! I also recommend the Meetup app for local groups that you might be interested in.

Get yo hair did, girl.

Nothing feels more exhilarating than a brand new hair doo! Whether you are chopping 12” off as I did, or just getting a blowout, you will feel as fresh as a spring chicken afterward! Try something new and sassy. When you are finished, go show off! Go walk around your local shopping center and do some window shopping. New hair, who dis!?

I got my hair done by Amy at Tease Premier Salon in Westport. She did a wonderful job!


Don’t make any excuses. You know, just as well as I do, how good you feel after you get your blood flowing and work up a sweat. As you sweat, imagine that it is all of the toxins and negative energy that you have absorbed since the last time you really moved your body. It is all melting away after just one sweat! Really give yourself something to be proud of! There are a ton of fun activities that you could perform that would improve your mental and physical wellbeing. I love to hike with my dog, play volleyball, and go for a swim! You might also check out RoKc as a fun alternative to get moving!

Dance your heart out.

Turn on a song that you enjoy and get moving! It doesn’t matter how you move your body or what sounds you make. Close your eyes and feel the music. Allow your body to move to the rhythm of this song that you are listening to. Dance freely and let your body to be soft and feminine. Flow with the sounds.

Embrace your body and the ability to flow the way that you want it to because that is a miracle!

Write yourself a list of things that you are grateful for.

It is easy to fall into the spiral of negative thoughts. It starts with one minor incident and the next thing you know- you have a whole crazy, made-up story about something that MIGHT happen. This is a good way to give yourself anxiety. So, instead- you can redirect your attention to things that are going well for you. Make a list of all of the things you are learning about, things that you are thankful for, things that you have learned, positive affirmations, and anything that makes you feel good!

I have an affirmation & intention journal that I write in every morning and an “information download” journal that I write in at night. When writing in the “information download” style, I do not stop myself to worry about handwriting or grammar. This technique inspires me to simply allow whatever it is to flow out of me naturally.

Stop trying to please other people.

Pardon my french, but who the fun cares what they think? Are you a good person? Are you staying true to yourself? Why does their opinion matter? Seriously, think about this for a second. The only thing that matters is the way that it makes you feel, and YOU have control over that.

Like my girl, Brooke Castillo says “You can be the juiciest peach on the tree, and there is always going to be someone that doesn’t like peaches”. AND THAT’S FINE! Move forward with your life knowing that there are people that already love, and believe in you and your dreams. There are countless women searching and reaching out to find each other. Women looking to build each other up to our highest selves. Surround yourself with people that support you no-matter-what because with an empowering tribe, success will feel easy.

Help someone else.

Generosity, or as it is referred by in Buddhism- Dana, “the practice of cultivating generosity” is truly my favorite way to generate new positive energy. I am most vibrant when I am helping others. It is so easy to do, and you will feel amazing about yourself afterward. Do something for someone with NO EXPECTATIONS. This can be difficult. When I say “no expectations” I mean- Do not even expect a “thank you”. Just give with the pure intention of giving freely. You can do small random acts of kindness like helping an elder with their grocery’s, volunteering at a local community project, anonymously leave an affirmation on someone’s car, or something a little more time consuming like mentoring a young adult that needs a positive influence in their life.

If you are looking a place to volunteer check these out:

Youth Volunteer Corp, Habitat for Humanity, Meals on wheels, Veterans Community Project, or Bikers for babies.

Embrace the Divine Feminine within.

YOU ARE A GODDESS. Sometimes us goddesses get busy and forget to show our body loving kindness. So here is your reminder! Pamper yourself! Set some time aside in your busy day to intentionally do something relaxing. I highly recommend beginning a daily meditation practice if you have not already. You might also want to go get a massage, a pedi, or maybe just take a nap!

Taking a shaman’s bath is a great way to relax and nurture your body. By doing this, are soaking your body with the intention of feeling more healthy and confident while also pulling out toxins! I invite you to really focus on the intention that you are setting in your bath time. Do whatever feels good for you! Wink, wink!

Let the past go.

What are you holding on to that is causing discomfort and resistance for you? Obviously, it is affecting you because you have made it this far in my post. Is it really worth holding on to?

I am not suggesting that you approve of whatever event that occurred that has wounded you. I am simply suggesting that you accept that it has happened, and it is over. You are free to move forward from it. Allow your wounds to start becoming cool scars.

I do not believe that confrontation will solve anything because you might agitate the situation and still never get the answer or feeling that you are seeking.

A great exercise to practice If you are holding on to a feeling from an event in the past is writing a letter. You can write a letter to whoever hurt you, or to yourself. When you are finished, safely burn the letter. You will then be completely free from any attachment that you have to that memory or pain. You will be free to move forward with your life and stop being a victim. You can start to take control of your life and watch your confidence skyrocket!

Ask for help.

Don’t allow your ego or fear prevent you from asking for help if you need it. Sometimes we need a second brain to help us sort things out. Some of the most successful people in the world have coaches! I would consider Tony Robbins to be successful, and even he has a coach!

Most coaches offer a free consultation to see if you would be a good fit for each other. You can find a coach for just about anything nowadays. I highly recommend checking out at least three coaches before committing to one. As a coach, my personal mission is to help my clients feel more confident, energized, healthy, balanced, and peaceful.

Set up a free consultation to see if I would be the perfect coach for you!

Make your goals work for you!

Every week I make a list of THREE things that I want to accomplish. Within that week, I have many other lists that I make, but my main focus is those three things. It is important to set goals, however, it is more important to set goals that are achievable. No matter what craziness is going on in my life- I remain calm, and focused on my weekly goals. I have a planner that I use specifically for my daily goals, or “to-do list”. This is not my weekly goals. My planner is a way for me to keep track of smaller things that I want to accomplish while I am reaching for the ultimate goals. When I first started practicing this technique, I was writing down things that seemed very minuscule. For example, getting out of bed, and getting myself ready. We all know how hard that can be sometimes, especially when you are experiencing depression. Something about the physical action of having a list, something to cross off, it made me feel like I had a minimum expectation of myself. Even if I was getting up, and doing my hair and makeup, and then just sitting around the house- I was still starting to feel better about myself. I don’t have to write down “get up” on my goals anymore, because I did it for so long, it became a part of my life. Now I am writing down long term goals, and things I never dreamed of.

I encourage you to make three attainable goals for this coming up week, and NO MATTER WHAT- make sure they get accomplished. If your goal is to exercise, and you know that you struggle with this, make your goal very small. 5 minutes of exercise, three times a week is 15 minutes of exercise that you were not doing before. That’s better than nothing, right!?

I know that you have come this far, and you have everything it takes within you to make this leap towards success. Remember, as always- You are smart, you are lovable, and you can do anything that you want to. Make a wonderful rest of your week.


-Coach Sause