The 3 Keys of Conscious Leadership

The 3 Keys of Conscious Leadership

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The 3 Keys of Conscious Leadership

By Whitney Sause 

In this post, I share what it means to be a conscious leader and the three keys of a GREAT leader. 

You can lead an entire country without these skills if you are granted power, but you will suffer consequences. These consequences will be internal as well as external for someone who is not on their “right path”

 

Conscious

To be conscious is to be aware of one’s self completely. Fully active mentally. Attentive, aware of thoughts, emotions, and the present moment.

 

Leadership

Someone who is self-disciplined. They inspire confidence in others and move them to action. Someone who will step up when a task needs to be accomplished. They are not afraid of doing things differently. They command authority or influence.

 

#1 Clarity

Being clear is kind! The more clear that we get with ourselves by being radically open, honest, and transparent, the more clearly others will understand us. So within, so without. If you are experiencing chaos and compartmentalization within the mind, it is likely that your outer world is reflecting that back to you, only making you feel more stressed and unorganized. 

 

Getting clear with yourself can be a challenge if you have never done it. It all starts with one simple question;

 

WHAT DO YOU WANT? 

 

Whatever your first answer is, you can assume that is the ego and release it. Now, take a deep breath x3. Give yourself some time to sit in silence without “doing” or “trying”. Just ALLOW. 

 

After you feel that you are a little more grounded and tuned into your heart space, ask yourself: “What do I want?”

 

Save the drama for your mama. We don’t need any ego or judgment in this exercise. Just your soul wisdom. Take your time and get crystal clear on what YOU want. Not your mom, dad, husband, kids, etc. YOU. What is YOUR greatest desire? Have you ever said it out loud? 

 

Having clarity with yourself will help you create purity in all of your relationships.

 

#2 Courage

A quote that changed my life forever:

“Without fear, there is no need for courage.”

 

This quote impacted me deeply because in that moment, I realized my humanness. The paradox of change is that we deeply desire the unknown, however, it is our greatest fear. 

 

We wish to find great excitement in life, but when it feels like something else (fear, anxiety) we don’t want it! Ummm…. Seems problematic, huh? 

 

We all have something that we are scared of. One person’s greatest fear might be to never be able to work again, while someone else’s fear might be dying. It takes courage for us to face our unique fears. We cannot be the judge of how much courage it will take for someone to do something because we don’t know how afraid of it they are. We are all wired much differently. 

 

It takes courage to get out of your comfort zone. Maybe you are already completely confident in one area of your life, but you still need the courage to confidently respond in other areas. 

 

Surgeons are a great example of someone who is admirably competent in one area, but might lack largely in other areas. Many great surgeons spend so much time doing what they love (learning how to be great surgeons) that their personal/social lives suffer. You could be the number one brain surgeon in the world and still have to muster up the courage to go on a date. 

 

Courage comes from commitment. You have to know what you want (clarity) and then commit to it. 

 

What is something that you know you need to do but haven’t had the courage to achieve? Is it in alignment with your souls purpose? What is holding you back? 

 

#3 Compassion

This is the strong desire to alleviate suffering. Again, so within, so without.

 

You cannot have compassion for others if you are not having compassion for yourself. Want to save the world? SAVE YO-SELF.

 

I have met a LOT of people and I can confidently say that across the board; most humans lack self-compassion. We grew up with parents from the Great Depression and Baby Boomer era’s. Compassion wasn’t exactly the forefront focus during that time. 

 

I have had so many clients share stories with me about being told that their feelings were not valid. In some cases my clients were told that their feelings/emotions/depression was not real. These individuals learned to contain any type of emotion and never say anything about it. 

 

Decades of never expressing your true needs, desires, and emotions can wreak havoc on the body. We store trauma in each of our organs, not just the mind. If you have a physical ailment, there is some energy that is trapped within you that needs to be released.

 

Practicing self-compassion seems so simple and easy that you might think it is one of those steps you can just skip over. DO NOT > I REPEAT > DO NOT SKIP THIS STEP. 

 

I have THREE key principles that I teach my leadership around. CLARITY, COURAGE, and COMPASSION. They are all equally as important. 

 

Start treating yourself the way you wished your mother had when you were a child. 

 

Beginning to work with the small child that is within you will start to make hugeeee shifts in your external world. 

 

Within every one of us, there is a child that didn’t have his/her needs met in some way. Have compassion for not only your adult self, but also that small innocent child. When we heal ourselves, we have the magic to help others heal. 

 

In my 1:1 coaching, we delve into what it looks like to embody massive shifts and step into alignment with your “fuck yes”. 

 

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3 Things Every Leader Should Know

 

 

I am in a learning season.

I love to write. This blog should be my favorite thing in the world, but I have been hung up on all of the ways it “should” be “perfect”. Whatever. So, I’m saying fuck it. I am going to share from my heart. I am going to get out of my own way and practice what I preach. 😉 Welcome to my crash course.

 

Up first:

What is a leader?

In my Spiritual Leadership Course, my students had a round-table discussion about what a leader was to them. People mentioned all different types of leaders. A few mentioned were:

 

  • Political figures such as; Mother Theresa, Dr. MLK Jr., Buddha

  • Parents

  • Mothers

  • People who have been granted a position by vote

  • People who have a following

  • People who lead themselves

 

Have you ever contemplated your idea of a leader? Have you ever considered yourself a leader? I can assure you, whether you consider yourself a leader or not, you do have leadership qualities. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be reading this.

 

To me, a leader is someone who will put themselves first because they know that they are the best version of themselves when they are fully charged. A leader is someone who will put others needs before his/her own when they can afford it. They strive to help others.

 

A leader would confidently step up in a time of need. A great leader is one that would never tell someone to do anything that they wouldn’t do themselves. An amazing leader listens deeply and communicates clearly to get to the root of any problems.

 

When I was in the Army, we learned leadership like this:

 

L-Loyalty

D-Duty

R-Respect

S-Selfless Service

H-Honor

I-Integrity

P-Personal courage

 

 

I still find this to be a valuable guide. My duty went from an M249 SAW gunner for my captain > to spreading love and light  while helping raise the vibration of the collective consciousness. Big diff…..

 

I’m on a roll, let’s keep going. Up next;

Authenticity in leadership

What is authenticity to you?

 

 

To me, authenticity is when you show up as who you truly want to be and not someone who tries to please everyone else. To be authentic is to show up unapologetically and allow your true colors to shine without compromising your integrity to make someone else feel comfortable.

 

Being authentic doesn’t mean you have to explain yourself to anyone or share your opinions. You can be authentic and stand in your power by being silent. If you are quiet, you are not compromising your integrity.

 

I will say, I don’t believe that you should be a hero and make everyone else’s problems your own, but to me, someone who is authentic will stand up for something that they believe in.

 

For example, if there was someone hurting someone else; I would feel compelled to say something. Would I have to? No. Of course not, but it would go against my values to ignore something like that. If I didn’t say something, I would not be in my authenticity.

 

How to increase your influence

First, you must be clear on your mission and vision. WHY are you wanting to do this?

 

 

Declare who and how you want to influence.

Starting with one group of people can help you to stay focused and learn one geographic at a time before you expand. Who are you feeling inspired to lead? Who do you lead WELL?

 

Connect deeply.

You want to create an emotional bond with people. A REAL one. Not some bullshit phony persona that you put on just to manipulate someone. NOT THAT. Get close to people and figure out what THEIR needs are. Aim to build long lasting relationships.

 

Be open to constructive criticism.

You don’t want to be a know-it-all. Be open to learning new ways to do things. If you are so sensitive that your following/friends don’t feel safe to talk to you; you will end up like Ray Dalio; running the world’s largest hedge fund and being despised by his employees because he was insensitive. Ray ran an anonymous survey and adjusted his tactics when he discovered the problem, and published a book for us to learn from his mistakes. (Highly recommend his book-Principles.)

 

Be consistent

It sucks… but people love having dirt on others. Don’t allow this to paralyze you with fear, just be conscious of it. Don’t do anything that you wouldn’t want on a billboard. That is basically what it means to have integrity; don’t do something that you wouldn’t want someone to know about. Also, be professional on your social media.

 

My rule of thumb is to always attempt to be one step ahead of myself. I always ask myself; “How can I step it up just a little bit more”?

 

Hold space

When we first gain consciousness, we typically need to take up some space to recalibrate any leftover feelings from trauma. Knowing that you have the personal power to take up space is powerful and grants you a lot of confidence.

 

HOLDING SPACE is a whole new level in the game. Holding space is literally just using your body to take up space without over-speaking. You are creating space with silence to allow someone else to say something that they may not otherwise.

 

By holding space for others, we empower them to shine brightly. This has a massive impact on the entire world!

 

Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is the psychological process of of bringing your attention to the present moment WITHOUT judgement.  

 

Be present in each moment. Have a solid grounding practice in place. Notice your internal dialogue. Monitor your consumption (of everything> food, music, conversation, television, etc.)

Are you an awakened leader searching for your tribe?

Waking up to your personal truth can be challenging and lonely. I created this group for the conscious leaders who want to grow, connect, and inspire. 

Yo! My name is Whitney Sause

Yo! My name is Whitney Sause

I spent 24 years suffering deeply with unresolved trauma from my childhood. In 2018 I experienced a sudden shift in consciousness that changed my life. I spent a few years healing my heart and now I find great joy in helping others find their path to personal power. I write all of my own stuff and it comes straight from my heart. Please reach out if you have any questions or if you simply just want to say hi. May you be filled with loving kindness.

-W

5 Morning Routine Musts

In today’s typical environment, we are overworked and overstimulated. It is crucial that we take the time to practice self-care before entering the urgency of life. Taking the time to complete a morning routine will propel you into the day feeling confident and accomplished. 

 

1. Drink Water

After a long night’s sleep, it is important to rehydrate your body with the liquid we call life! Drinking water first thing helps with your digestive system and the overall function of your body. If you want bonus points- add fresh lemon juice! 

 

2. Gratitude

By physically writing things that you are grateful for, you are embodying gratitude. You are showing the universe that you appreciate what you already have and you are ready for more. 

I say aim for three things to really get your gratitude mindset rolling ( sort of as a bare minimum) but feel free to list as many as you can think of! 

 

3. Incantations

 

Incantations are words or phrases that you say out loud or in your head for positive affirmation. The difference between an Incantation and an Affirmation is that an incantation is magic. (Jk…………..unless you believe in magic and then you know I am not kidding.) 

 

An incantation is an affirmation that you physically feel. You imagine each cell in your body shifting into the belief that you are speaking. By speaking these affirming words; you are taking up space that could otherwise be used for negativity if your mind is running a muck. Or as Buddhists refer to it, “monkey mind”. 

 

 

4. Meditate

Space. Silence. Stillness. Do you notice that wise individuals speak slower? There is more space in between the things that they do. To gain intelligence- you study. To gain wisdom- you go into the silence. 

 

In the silence you will find thousands of years of ancestral wisdom.  When you pray, you are telling or asking God something. When you meditate, you are listening to what God has for you. 

 

Doing this in the morning helps you to return to the breath when you are feeling anxious throughout your day.

 

5. Review Top 3

Each night, before bed- I write my top three priorities for the day. Reviewing these in the morning gives you a great sense of measurement on exactly how much time you have to get them done. It’s great to have a top three so that you are not overwhelmed with a lengthy “To-Do” list. 

 

Have your top priorities fresh on your mind as you enter into the day and you will feel victorious. 

 

These are only 5 of the things that are on my list, but I have deemed them the most important to me. Play with your routine. Munipulate it so that it fits your needs perfectly, but make sure you stick to it! You will feel so much better about your day! 

11 Benefits of Meditating

You have heard of meditation before, but you aren’t sure what it is so you don’t think that it is for you. You might think that you could never do it, you aren’t cut out for it. For all of the years that you have been alive, your mind has been running wild. Like any other muscle, your mind needs to be trained. Sitting is a practice that takes much discipline. Similar to going to the gym, or changing your diet- meditation is a new habit that will take time to adjust to. With practice, meditation becomes easier.  Here are some of the benefits that I have personally experienced from my daily sitting practice.

What is Meditation?

Meditation is a practice of cultivating stillness. You sit with the intention of listening to whatever arises for you. Meditation is about training the mind gently. This practice is NOT about stopping all of your thoughts. When each thought arises, you can simply observe it, and release it without creating any drama or story around the thought.

You might think “I need to go to the grocery store.” That thought inspires you to think of what store you will go to, what time you will go, and ten other things that need to be added to the list. Rather than getting upset that you had these thoughts, you can enjoy a laugh when you notice that your brain was thinking again, and gently release the thoughts.

Patience

If I miss one day of sitting, I notice myself getting anxious and rushing through life. The purpose of this life is to enjoy each moment. Meditation allows you to be calm and present in each moment with peace.

Equanimity

Silence allows issues and thoughts to arise. When you sit, you are giving yourself the opportunity to resolve any conflict that you are having. When we pull the weeds from the root out of the garden in our psyche, we are cleansing our minds deeply to access inner-peace. When you begin to face all of the problems you have been running from, you find a deep sense of mental calmness and composure.

Wise-decision making

Sitting in silence gives you time to process everything that you are consuming. When you take time to connect with yourself, and source- You will have a clearer mind. You will react less based on your emotion. The decisions that you make will reflect this healthy habit.

Better Sleep

When the monkey-mind runs wild, it can challenge your peaceful sleeping patterns. Cultivating silence intentionally will allow you to manage your thoughts better so that you are not up all night with regrets and worries. You can have a clear mind that is disciplined, rather than running wild.

Deeper Connections

Having a daily sitting practice will help you to be more present with your loved ones. When you are able to give your full attention, your relationships become healthier. You are able to listen and connect deeply with the people in your life. This leads to positive connections and peaceful conversations.

More Creative

We are constantly bombarded with new things to consume. This can be problematic when you are overwhelmed or comparing your life to other people’s. Your meditation practice will give you space for original, fresh, new ideas to enter.

Mindful Eating

It is easy to scarf down a basket of fried southwest chicken rolls when you are not thinking about how harmful the grease is for your body or how poorly the chickens were treated. This might be challenging for some individuals. It is hard work to start noticing everything that you are consuming. A lot will change. This can be a difficult transition, but the benefits of mindful eating will literally add years to your life. Meditation gives you the time to consider your choices.

Joy

To open space for the resolution and release of problems, you create space for joy and happiness.

Tame the Monkey Mind

Buddhism refers to the untamed mind as “the monkey mind”. If you don’t ever administer discipline, the voice in your mind will seem like it is running the show. That voice is not you. You are the consciousness that is observing the thoughts. You will always have thoughts, but with a daily meditation practice, the thoughts will not run as wild. A thought will arise, and you will acknowledge and release it.

Heightened Intuition

We all have superpowers. We all have the ability to communicate telepathically with others at a distance. We also can communicate with dead people and animals. After a 75-hour meditation retreat, my mother and I could feel the presence of each other. That is our natural state. When you train your mind, you will begin to feel and sense things clearly. You will be able to read other people’s emotions.

Resolved anxiety

Anxiety comes from worrying about something that has already occurred or something that has yet to occur. When you are in the present moment, observing each breath, you are unable to worry about things that are not happening at the moment. (more on anxiety)

The recommended time to meditate is at least 20-minutes per day, and if you don’t have time to meditate for 20-minutes, you should meditate for an hour.

Your brain has likely been running the show for a while and will resist this new practice. Take charge! My life coach holds me accountable. I would be happy to be the coach to hold you accountable, but it is up to you to make the decision to be healthy and honor your commitments.

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7 Ways To Boost Your Self Confidence

Self Confidence is Self-Care

How confident do you feel right now? Everyone has a different answer depending on their present situation, time of the day, or maybe after a cup of coffee. It’s not always easy to consistently feel confidence in yourself, especially when faced with the stresses that life inevitably throws your way. I’ve written out seven different ways that you can give yourself the little confidence kick you need for when that happens. After all, investing in your confidence is investing in your self-care.

Confidence isn’t Arrogance

Do you ever feel like you’re not enough, or that you’re too much? What about when you’re around co-workers or friends, and you can’t shake the feeling like you can’t be yourself. Your feelings are real, but they are not reality. All too often, everyone’s perception of others around them is based on your own feelings, which can be exacerbated by peers who may be feeling similarly.

When you’re focused on your personal growth and success, you aren’t paying attention to what other people think about you. Sometimes it can feel like you’re being too ambitious or arrogant. Confidence isn’t arrogance. Believing in yourself is not vanity – it’s self-empowerment. The most confident women that I have ever known, KNEW that they were amazing. They were not afraid to admit it, because they knew that anyone that they wanted to be around would also recognize their awesomeness.

Practice

No one is born confident. Just like everything else that you have mastered, confidence is a learned habit. It is something that you can practice and become better at. Fake it til you make it. Imagine yourself as a character that is confident, and act like you already have it (because you do). Deep inside of you, you know that you are an amazing, badass, woman, and you can start acting like it at any moment. Depression, anxiety, and PTSD will add a layer of difficulty, but practicing as a part of your daily routine can help reinforce treatment and therapy.

Practice Humility

Confidence is sexy when you are kind and loving. Make sure that your confidence is coming from a loving, sincere place. Always remember what it is like to be the self-conscious girl. Practice compassion. You have no idea what kind of trauma someone else has experienced. You DO NOT need to unscrew other girls light’s to make yours shine brighter. Combine your light with everyone around you and be authentic so that other ladies feel comfortable to shine brighter with you. We all win this way.

Know Your Tribe

Since the beginning of time, humans have had tribes. Without a community, we become depressed, have low self-confidence, don’t feel a sense of belonging, or know our purpose.

There are individuals that have yet to experience their spiritual awakening and don’t realize that we are all one. And then there are your people, that share the same dreams and values as you. Maybe you aren’t quite vibrating at the same frequency that they are, but with some life coaching and spiritual mentorship, you can learn how to raise your vibration and become the best version of yourself to attract the best crew for you.

Make Health A Priority

Have you ever left the gym NOT feeling more confident? If you don’t like the gym, I suggest looking for an alternative resolution. Get moving. You can rock climb, hike, rollerblade, practice yoga, join a spin class, etc. The list goes on. Health is not only about what you look like. It affects your mood, sleep pattern, and YOUR LOW CONFIDENCE. Eating a healthy diet and getting proper rest and exercise will help your confidence significantly. Set some weekly health goals for yourself. 20-minutes of exercise 3x per week is much better than none at all.

Practice Meditation

When was the last time you took some time for yourself? Daily meditation practice is a great way to slow down, and allow your mind, body, and spirit to align. When you take a holistic approach, you are opening communication with the universe. Profound insights arise when you retreat to silence. When you return to your natural state, you begin to realize the things that are truly important.

Invest Time and Love in Yourself

There are many ways that you can invest in yourself. Facebook and meetup are places where you can find local and online workshops. Educating yourself is a great way to build confidence. A life coach can help you to find your blind spots and understand where your lack of confidence is stemming from. You don’t know what you don’t know.

There is so much that you can learn from having someone asking you questions that you might not think to ask yourself. A coach will help you learn and grow. Do you know what happens when you learn and grow? You begin to feel more confident in yourself! Find a coach that offers services that resonate with you. If you want to feel more confident, find a confidence coach.

If you want to heal your heart, release stuck energy from trauma, and passionately fall in love with your life, check out my online coaching program –The Goddess Heart Healing Circle.

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