7 Ways To Boost Your Self Confidence

Self Confidence is Self-Care

How confident do you feel right now? Everyone has a different answer depending on their present situation, time of the day, or maybe after a cup of coffee. It’s not always easy to consistently feel confidence in yourself, especially when faced with the stresses that life inevitably throws your way. I’ve written out seven different ways that you can give yourself the little confidence kick you need for when that happens. After all, investing in your confidence is investing in your self-care.

Confidence isn’t Arrogance

Do you ever feel like you’re not enough, or that you’re too much? What about when you’re around co-workers or friends, and you can’t shake the feeling like you can’t be yourself. Your feelings are real, but they are not reality. All too often, everyone’s perception of others around them is based on your own feelings, which can be exacerbated by peers who may be feeling similarly.

When you’re focused on your personal growth and success, you aren’t paying attention to what other people think about you. Sometimes it can feel like you’re being too ambitious or arrogant. Confidence isn’t arrogance. Believing in yourself is not vanity – it’s self-empowerment. The most confident women that I have ever known, KNEW that they were amazing. They were not afraid to admit it, because they knew that anyone that they wanted to be around would also recognize their awesomeness.

Practice

No one is born confident. Just like everything else that you have mastered, confidence is a learned habit. It is something that you can practice and become better at. Fake it til you make it. Imagine yourself as a character that is confident, and act like you already have it (because you do). Deep inside of you, you know that you are an amazing, badass, woman, and you can start acting like it at any moment. Depression, anxiety, and PTSD will add a layer of difficulty, but practicing as a part of your daily routine can help reinforce treatment and therapy.

Practice Humility

Confidence is sexy when you are kind and loving. Make sure that your confidence is coming from a loving, sincere place. Always remember what it is like to be the self-conscious girl. Practice compassion. You have no idea what kind of trauma someone else has experienced. You DO NOT need to unscrew other girls light’s to make yours shine brighter. Combine your light with everyone around you and be authentic so that other ladies feel comfortable to shine brighter with you. We all win this way.

Know Your Tribe

Since the beginning of time, humans have had tribes. Without a community, we become depressed, have low self-confidence, don’t feel a sense of belonging, or know our purpose.

There are individuals that have yet to experience their spiritual awakening and don’t realize that we are all one. And then there are your people, that share the same dreams and values as you. Maybe you aren’t quite vibrating at the same frequency that they are, but with some life coaching and spiritual mentorship, you can learn how to raise your vibration and become the best version of yourself to attract the best crew for you.

Make Health A Priority

Have you ever left the gym NOT feeling more confident? If you don’t like the gym, I suggest looking for an alternative resolution. Get moving. You can rock climb, hike, rollerblade, practice yoga, join a spin class, etc. The list goes on. Health is not only about what you look like. It affects your mood, sleep pattern, and YOUR LOW CONFIDENCE. Eating a healthy diet and getting proper rest and exercise will help your confidence significantly. Set some weekly health goals for yourself. 20-minutes of exercise 3x per week is much better than none at all.

Practice Meditation

When was the last time you took some time for yourself? Daily meditation practice is a great way to slow down, and allow your mind, body, and spirit to align. When you take a holistic approach, you are opening communication with the universe. Profound insights arise when you retreat to silence. When you return to your natural state, you begin to realize the things that are truly important.

Invest Time and Love in Yourself

There are many ways that you can invest in yourself. Facebook and meetup are places where you can find local and online workshops. Educating yourself is a great way to build confidence. A life coach can help you to find your blind spots and understand where your lack of confidence is stemming from. You don’t know what you don’t know.

There is so much that you can learn from having someone asking you questions that you might not think to ask yourself. A coach will help you learn and grow. Do you know what happens when you learn and grow? You begin to feel more confident in yourself! Find a coach that offers services that resonate with you. If you want to feel more confident, find a confidence coach.

If you want to heal your heart, release stuck energy from trauma, and passionately fall in love with your life, check out my online coaching program –The Goddess Heart Healing Circle.

If you made it this far, please help a sister out by sharing this blog with your friends to elevate their vibrations as well! Everyone deserves free content!

Success Journey Transparency

Everyone has a Unique Story

I often hear people talk about being self-made and I call bullshit.

EVERYONE has had someone helping them at one point, EVERYONE has had challenges, and everyone has had to climb.You can not analyze your success or wins based on where someone else is because not only do they have a different script and story, but they also have their own narrative behind the scenes.

There are things that have happened in your life that gave you a clear advantage, as well as things that gave you a clear disadvantage.

It’s Your Journey

You are not on someone else’s journey. Imagine where you were 6 months ago, and how you dreamed of being where you are now. There is no sense in focusing on the things that were difficult or challenging unless you are taking the time to analyze how it made you better or how you might be able to improve.

It is easy to allow your attention to drift from the things you do well onto the things that you are not as good at.The universe gives you more of what you focus your attention on, so it won’t do you good to spend a bunch of time empathizing over things that didn’t go well.

Simply observe that your plan did not work the way that you originally planned and do not resist it. Sharing these experiences can help you to understand them and what they mean to you.

Are You Being Transparent?

When you are new at something, how much do you reveal about the journey?

Are you scared of sharing the things that did not go well, but never hesitate to share the things that are going incredible? What is the difference? What is holding you back from sharing the behind the scene “fails”? You don’t have to share everything with your followers or friends, but it is good to share the raw stuff. People notice this transparency and appreciate it.

Whether you are starting a new art project or creating a business, there will be trial and error. One thing you must learn to be a successful entrepreneur is that we all fail. Good entrepreneurs have just learned to love finding new ways to make things work.

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

–Thomas Edison

If You’re Afraid

I understand that you might fear to show the world what you got, or how you got it.

“What if they steal my idea!?”
What if they think I am incompetent
What if they think that I need more coaching myself?
Okay, first of all- no one can steal your idea.

No one is you, and no one can replicate your ideas. Trust when I say that there is an abundance of everything for everyone. As a coach, I know that the most important part of my life is going with the flow and being open to being coached myself.

There is always something to learn.

Adopt the mindset that everyone is your teacher and see how much you can learn. Other individuals on their journey will see your errors and transparency and they will become inspired and see the potential in themselves!

My Mission

My mission is to create a beautiful life for not only me but for the generations that follow me. In order to create a beautiful, happy, healthy life for myself- I challenge myself to improve the lives of everyone around me (to include you!). I intentionally share my good and bad days with the people that I aim to inspire.

I am here to inspire people to start taking steps towards becoming their ideal self. This is the most successful point that you can imagine yourself reaching. I aim to do this because I love being around people that are happy with all aspects of their life.

Positivity is infectious, and if you think you don’t need a coach then you might ask yourself why you are resisting the idea of someone assisting you in identifying areas of your life that could improve.

I want to help you find inner peace, improve your confidence levels, increase your business, and improve your relationships.

Does that sound like something you need? Schedule a free consultation today.

 

Ascension Symptoms 2019

Ascending is rising or increasing to a higher level. Could there possibly be symptoms to you waking up? I recall feeling drained when I was experiencing my awakening, however, I do not think that your ascension or awakening is the cause of your symptoms.

Ascending is an amazing, wonderful, and powerful experience.

We are all capable of ascending to our highest self. (Which is actually no-self; I will be addressing this in an upcoming blog!) Some of the effects you might be experiencing

Feeling Tired

Are you experiencing sleeping problems? Tossing and turning at night? Are you are feeling drained during times of the day when you normally would not be? Letting go of old familiar routines and situations can be both frightening and exhausting.

It is possible that you are exhausted because you are identifying/noticing the resistance in your life that you did not see before. This will not last forever. So much positive energy is coming your way!

Loneliness

In a room full of people do you feel like you are all alone? Are you distancing yourself from normal social activities that you used to enjoy? Are you becoming uninterested in some of your existing relationships (or all)?During your ascension, you may start distancing yourself from others because you notice that they are not on the same path that you desire to be on.

You are beginning to realize what is important to you, and if others values don’t align, you might be wondering where they fit in your life. I encourage you to embrace this loneliness. When you take the time to get a clear idea of your ideal self, you grant yourself the life you desire, which includes the friends that you have wanted all your life.

You may not even know what kind of friends you truly want. Take this time to figure that out.

Expanded Curiosity

Something amazing within you must have been awakened for you to be reading a blog like this! It is likely that you are interested in:

  • Having new experiences that seem more healthy
  • Looking for material to read
  • Searching for activities that you truly enjoy
  • Taking the time to try new things in order to discover what you love rather than being stuck in the same old routine

Trust your intuition! If a new opportunity arises, adopt the “what do I have to lose?” attitude.

Since I began living my life with that type of attitude, I have had more INCREDIBLE experiences than I could have ever imagined. (I will be sharing some of these life-changing experiences in my podcast- The Healing Sause Podcast!)

These are just a few signs that you are growing, adapting, ascending, and evolving. The most important thing to remember is to have fun along the journey. If you are not having fun, what is it all for? You are only as limited as you want to be. Continue seeking truth, and wisdom & equanimity will follow.

If you need help setting and reaching your goals through this time, a life coach might be perfect for you! I specialize in ascension. I am here to help you understand and navigate your awakening.

Schedule a free consultation with me today! I am ready, are you?

Finding and Maintaining Flow

Were you “in the flow” and now you are trying to find your way back? Or maybe you have never been in the flow and you’re ready to find out what that even means? Are you wondering if it is even possible for someone as angry as you to reach a state of complete bliss? The answer is yes. You can reach equanimity.

There are always going to be new situations arising in your life. You cannot control the happenings in the world around you. So, how do you stay in the flow with new things constantly arising?

Think back to the last time you felt like you were in “the flow”. If you don’t know what this feeling is, or have never experienced this feeling, keep reading. Maybe something in this blog will inspire you to have this experience. I would explain this as my feeling of One with the Universe. It’s the complete acceptance of everything that happens. Free of resistance, anger, fear, and confusion. Everything feels like it is aligned perfectly.

Do a life scan

If you can, find a quiet, calm place with a neutral temperature to do this. Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes, and imagine what your life would be like if it were PERFECT. Have you ever imagined this?

What would you do with your time?
What career would you have?
Who would you be friends with?
How much money would you be making?
What kinds of things would you and your friends do?
What would your perfect Saturday evening look like?
As a result, you can begin to get a clear image of who it is that you are working towards becoming. Furthermore, you can start becoming that ideal image.

What should I keep in my life?

Think about what habits you want to posses when you are at your peak point of success?

Write a list of things/habits you currently have. Which of those habits would you like to keep?

Think about the people that have everything in life that you want. In contrast, what characteristics and qualities do they possess?

What habits should I get rid of?

We all have that one thing. Consequently, It’s like our spirit is screaming at us to stop doing it, but we can’t. Whatever unhealthy thing that you are passionate about- let it go.

You thought it for the reason that you know it is bad for you. Write it down. Set the intention to allow yourself to let go of the attachment, and then let it be.

Don’t repeatedly kick your own ass because you continue to indulge. Enjoy it if you are going to make the decision to do it. Above all, you show me that you are ready to let it go because you are reading this blog.

Make a list of the things that you do daily that you do not want to do any longer.

I know first hand how hard it is to quit things that you are addicted to (including drugs, alcohol, and anger). Just by writing these things down, you are planting a seed. You are setting the intention on who you are becoming. Therefore, you have taken control.

Trust the process

A rock in a riverbed is stuck in the same place, resisting the flow. The water is calm and persistent. It continues to flow around anything that is in its path. The rock is heavy and does not move with the current. As a result, the rock slowly begins to diminish. The body of water takes away from the rock.

If you are in the water (flow, universe, alignment) allow yourself to flow freely. If there is resistance, like the rock- you will begin to diminish. You must have trust in the universe and in yourself.

Don’t burn yourself out

Always remember that 6 months ago, you dreamed of being where you are now. Just keep pushing, keep grinding. You’ll get there. Don’t ever forget that the most important thing is the ride.

A great way to avoid getting burned out is to keep a journal where you list the things you are proud that you accomplished every day, and a list of at least three things that you are grateful for.

If you don’t think you have anything to be grateful for, try doing your morning routine with your eyes closed.

Take action

You don’t get to sit on your bum and watch the universe start working miracles for you. You know that you have to identify things you love about your life, get rid of the things you do not love, and remain grateful.

You have to stop complaining about the past and start taking steps towards a better you. The only person you need to be better than is the person you were yesterday.

As an ascension coach, I can help you identify where resistance is occurring in your life, how to get rid of it, and be in complete alignment with the universe. Time is the only limit.

Schedule a free consultation with me today.

How to Manage Anxiety | Part 1

Identify triggers

It is not uncommon for anxiety attacks to arise when you are in a relaxed state. Take note of things that you notice around the time of your anxiety. The more that you understand about your anxiety, the easier it will be for you to start gaining control. A few questions that you can ask yourself to better understand where your anxiety is stemming from;

Are you aware of what is causing your attacks?
Where you are experiencing resistance in your life?
Are you neglecting any personal needs?
Are the attacks occurring at a certain time of the day?
Is there something that consistently gives you anxiety?
What was happening right before you started to feel the attack arising?

Move around

When you are moving, you are growing. Moving and showing your body love feels good. There is also a newly gained confidence and a feeling of accomplishment when you get your blood flowing. If you are regularly moving your body you will also experience results like better sleep, more energy, mental clarity, and many other physical benefits.

You don’t necessarily have to go to the gym to get the blood flowing. There are millions of videos and workouts posted online that you can accomplish in the comfort of your own home. Make sure that your goal is realistic for you. 20 minutes of exercise, 3x per week might be a great start for a healthy individual who does not have a regular exercise routine. If you’re not feeling the gym, throw on your favorite jams, and have a dance party at your house! Dancing is so liberating and fun. It doesn’t matter how you move, just move! Shake your shoulders and wiggle around! Do what feels natural and makes your body feel good. By moving around, you are breaking up any energy blocks or tension that could be stuck in your body.

Creative expression

Humans enjoy creating differently. If you aren’t sure of what you enjoy creating, it is time to begin exploring your options. There is something out there for you, and if you are struggling to find a creative outlet- you can make something up! Some individuals enjoy creating jewelry, pottery, paintings, stories, and even things like taxidermy!

Letting out a little creativity can do a world of good for your psyche. There are different phases that your body must go through to maintain balance, and one of them is allowing yourself to create something. Maybe you splatter paint all over a canvas, or something a little more structured like writing a short story about something that you love. It is okay if these things don’t feel as if they come naturally to you. If you are trying something new, it generally won’t feel natural. Try to focus on enjoying the task more than being good at it. If you enjoy whatever you are creating, you will naturally become more skillful. Skillset is a result, not a requirement.

Positive affirmations

Which do you think comes first- Success or Positive Self-Talk? Imagine a life where you focus on nothing but the positive things that you have accomplished. The universe pays attention to the things that you focus on and delivers more of that to you because you are activating something called the Law Of Attraction.

“I am constantly growing and evolving into the woman that I desire to be. I am a woman of value and integrity. I build healthy, valuable relationships. I set boundaries with people I love because I respect myself”. –Whitney Sause

Having a hard time coming up with some positive affirmations? Check out my weekly wisdom/affirmation give-aways, where I will send you weekly positive affirmations and nuggets of wisdom to stimulate you and your new positive mindset.

Practice Yoga

Yoga is the perfect way to center your mind, body, and spirit. Yoga is also great for calming your nerves, and genuinely nurturing your body. There are many different kinds of yoga classes available, so take the time to find one that is best for you.

If you live in the Kansas City area, I recommend Karma Tribe Yoga in Westport or InBliss Yoga in NKC. Look up the different types of classes and see which one best fits your personal goals and needs. Don’t give up!

Write Freely

I like to refer to this as an “information download”. I prefer to use the old-fashioned pen and paper method because the style of your handwriting adds an extra element of creativity that a computer will not display. Set aside a certain amount of time to write freely without worrying about spelling, grammar, or topic. Let your hand write whatever it wants to.

Turn off all distractions, find a pen that you enjoy using, get in a comfortable position, and start writing. You might come up with solutions or answers that you weren’t even aware you were seeking.

Recap & What to look forward to in part 2

In part 1 of How to Manage Anxiety, I covered identifying triggers, moving around to break up stuck energy or tension in your body, having a creative outlet to maintain balance, using positive affirmations to add life to things that are going well and attracting more positive experiences, practicing yoga to center your mind, body, and spirit, and lastly, Freewriting as a way to reflect.

Next week, in part two, I will release 7 more techniques to reduce and possibly eliminate anxiety from your life.

Creating new habits and sticking to them can be a challenge, but seeing them multiple times can really help them stick with you. It might be beneficial to write these 6 steps down in order to further your familiarization with them.

If you are experiencing extreme anxiety, please seek professional help immediately. It is important to take care of yourself and get to the root issue so that you can live the best life available to you. I am currently assisting women in their transformation and would love to connect to see if I am the right coach for you.

If one or all of these have helped you in some way, please feel free to share your growth experiences so that we can reach other women and inspire them to start making these positive changes as well.