3 Things Every Leader Should Know

 

 

I am in a learning season.

I love to write. This blog should be my favorite thing in the world, but I have been hung up on all of the ways it “should” be “perfect”. Whatever. So, I’m saying fuck it. I am going to share from my heart. I am going to get out of my own way and practice what I preach. 😉 Welcome to my crash course.

 

Up first:

What is a leader?

In my Spiritual Leadership Course, my students had a round-table discussion about what a leader was to them. People mentioned all different types of leaders. A few mentioned were:

 

  • Political figures such as; Mother Theresa, Dr. MLK Jr., Buddha

  • Parents

  • Mothers

  • People who have been granted a position by vote

  • People who have a following

  • People who lead themselves

 

Have you ever contemplated your idea of a leader? Have you ever considered yourself a leader? I can assure you, whether you consider yourself a leader or not, you do have leadership qualities. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be reading this.

 

To me, a leader is someone who will put themselves first because they know that they are the best version of themselves when they are fully charged. A leader is someone who will put others needs before his/her own when they can afford it. They strive to help others.

 

A leader would confidently step up in a time of need. A great leader is one that would never tell someone to do anything that they wouldn’t do themselves. An amazing leader listens deeply and communicates clearly to get to the root of any problems.

 

When I was in the Army, we learned leadership like this:

 

L-Loyalty

D-Duty

R-Respect

S-Selfless Service

H-Honor

I-Integrity

P-Personal courage

 

 

I still find this to be a valuable guide. My duty went from an M249 SAW gunner for my captain > to spreading love and light  while helping raise the vibration of the collective consciousness. Big diff…..

 

I’m on a roll, let’s keep going. Up next;

Authenticity in leadership

What is authenticity to you?

 

 

To me, authenticity is when you show up as who you truly want to be and not someone who tries to please everyone else. To be authentic is to show up unapologetically and allow your true colors to shine without compromising your integrity to make someone else feel comfortable.

 

Being authentic doesn’t mean you have to explain yourself to anyone or share your opinions. You can be authentic and stand in your power by being silent. If you are quiet, you are not compromising your integrity.

 

I will say, I don’t believe that you should be a hero and make everyone else’s problems your own, but to me, someone who is authentic will stand up for something that they believe in.

 

For example, if there was someone hurting someone else; I would feel compelled to say something. Would I have to? No. Of course not, but it would go against my values to ignore something like that. If I didn’t say something, I would not be in my authenticity.

 

How to increase your influence

First, you must be clear on your mission and vision. WHY are you wanting to do this?

 

 

Declare who and how you want to influence.

Starting with one group of people can help you to stay focused and learn one geographic at a time before you expand. Who are you feeling inspired to lead? Who do you lead WELL?

 

Connect deeply.

You want to create an emotional bond with people. A REAL one. Not some bullshit phony persona that you put on just to manipulate someone. NOT THAT. Get close to people and figure out what THEIR needs are. Aim to build long lasting relationships.

 

Be open to constructive criticism.

You don’t want to be a know-it-all. Be open to learning new ways to do things. If you are so sensitive that your following/friends don’t feel safe to talk to you; you will end up like Ray Dalio; running the world’s largest hedge fund and being despised by his employees because he was insensitive. Ray ran an anonymous survey and adjusted his tactics when he discovered the problem, and published a book for us to learn from his mistakes. (Highly recommend his book-Principles.)

 

Be consistent

It sucks… but people love having dirt on others. Don’t allow this to paralyze you with fear, just be conscious of it. Don’t do anything that you wouldn’t want on a billboard. That is basically what it means to have integrity; don’t do something that you wouldn’t want someone to know about. Also, be professional on your social media.

 

My rule of thumb is to always attempt to be one step ahead of myself. I always ask myself; “How can I step it up just a little bit more”?

 

Hold space

When we first gain consciousness, we typically need to take up some space to recalibrate any leftover feelings from trauma. Knowing that you have the personal power to take up space is powerful and grants you a lot of confidence.

 

HOLDING SPACE is a whole new level in the game. Holding space is literally just using your body to take up space without over-speaking. You are creating space with silence to allow someone else to say something that they may not otherwise.

 

By holding space for others, we empower them to shine brightly. This has a massive impact on the entire world!

 

Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is the psychological process of of bringing your attention to the present moment WITHOUT judgement.  

 

Be present in each moment. Have a solid grounding practice in place. Notice your internal dialogue. Monitor your consumption (of everything> food, music, conversation, television, etc.)

Are you an awakened leader searching for your tribe?

Waking up to your personal truth can be challenging and lonely. I created this group for the conscious leaders who want to grow, connect, and inspire. 

Yo! My name is Whitney Sause

Yo! My name is Whitney Sause

I spent 24 years suffering deeply with unresolved trauma from my childhood. In 2018 I experienced a sudden shift in consciousness that changed my life. I spent a few years healing my heart and now I find great joy in helping others find their path to personal power. I write all of my own stuff and it comes straight from my heart. Please reach out if you have any questions or if you simply just want to say hi. May you be filled with loving kindness.

-W

Becoming Your Higher Self: 4 Things to Know

4 Things to Remember When Stepping Into a Higher Version of Yourself

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To the woman who is ready to step into her highest self but not sure where to start,

 

We could agree that our parents were “supposed to” teach us the basics of how to care for ourselves, but the reality is: our parents did the best they could. Fortunately for us, that is all we needed. We can take it from here. 

 

We are adults now and WE have the power and permission to start stepping into our highest self. By taking the time to read this blog, I can tell that you are one of the many individuals that are truly ready to start taking inspired action and discovering the life of peace and equanimity that you are destined for. You are not reading this by mistake. 

 

You have everything that you need to shift into the highest version of yourself RIGHT NOW.

 

Some Important things to keep in mind when you are making these positive lifestyle changes;

 

#1 Don’t Be Afraid To Change Your Mind

 

Just because you change your mind does not make you a hypocrite.

 

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”

-Maya Angelou

 

We must be flexible like the trees bending in the storms. We must not cling to any one thing. It is important to keep an open mind because there is no one truth. We are divine beings. Our purpose on this planet is to learn and grow.

 

Do not be afraid of changing your mind when you gain new information or insight. Be wary of people who judge you for changing your mind.

 

#2 Your Happiness Matters Most

I believe that each individual soul on this planet should be focused on making sure their basic needs are being met. When we invest time in making sure that all of our personal needs are being met, we are one step closer to complete flow state.

 

Our first obligation to ourselves and our loved ones should be to make sure that we are in a healthy mental, physical, and spiritual state so that we can show up as the divine powerful goddesses that we are.

 

We are loving and nurturing by nature. This is a gift that you have. Enhance your gift by focusing on the things that give you joy.

 

#3 We Are All Fully Supported

 

No matter what situations you have ever been in, you have always had exactly what you needed. The same goes for all humans. We have each intentionally chosen to incarnate at this time to experience human life. Our gift from the universe for choosing this experience is that we are always supported. 

 

You do not need to be afraid of exiting someone elses life because they will not have anyone else. We are only responsible for our own actions. It is codependency when someone is not open to being supported by others beside you. If you are staying in someone’s life because you believe that they will not survive without you, you are also acting codependantly. 

 

You are fully supported by the universe to do whatever it is that your heart has been nagging you to do. Seriously, do the thing.

 

#4 Breathe

 

When you begin to worry about yourself or someone else not having enough, stop and take a deep breath. If you are worrying, it is because you are not in the present moment.

 

We can have anxiety about things from the past which we cannot change, and we can stress about things that have yet to happen, but when we are in the present moment, there is nothing to worry about.

 

Use the breath to come back to the present moment every time.

 

Trust that you deserve EVERYTHING that you desire. Breathe in peace and joy, and breathe out negativity and self-doubt.

 

We exist in this time and space so that we can learn and evolve. You are on the right path. Stay curious and trust your intuition.

If you are struggling to stay in the present moment please check out my free guided meditation 

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5 Morning Routine Musts

In today’s typical environment, we are overworked and overstimulated. It is crucial that we take the time to practice self-care before entering the urgency of life. Taking the time to complete a morning routine will propel you into the day feeling confident and accomplished. 

 

1. Drink Water

After a long night’s sleep, it is important to rehydrate your body with the liquid we call life! Drinking water first thing helps with your digestive system and the overall function of your body. If you want bonus points- add fresh lemon juice! 

 

2. Gratitude

By physically writing things that you are grateful for, you are embodying gratitude. You are showing the universe that you appreciate what you already have and you are ready for more. 

I say aim for three things to really get your gratitude mindset rolling ( sort of as a bare minimum) but feel free to list as many as you can think of! 

 

3. Incantations

 

Incantations are words or phrases that you say out loud or in your head for positive affirmation. The difference between an Incantation and an Affirmation is that an incantation is magic. (Jk…………..unless you believe in magic and then you know I am not kidding.) 

 

An incantation is an affirmation that you physically feel. You imagine each cell in your body shifting into the belief that you are speaking. By speaking these affirming words; you are taking up space that could otherwise be used for negativity if your mind is running a muck. Or as Buddhists refer to it, “monkey mind”. 

 

 

4. Meditate

Space. Silence. Stillness. Do you notice that wise individuals speak slower? There is more space in between the things that they do. To gain intelligence- you study. To gain wisdom- you go into the silence. 

 

In the silence you will find thousands of years of ancestral wisdom.  When you pray, you are telling or asking God something. When you meditate, you are listening to what God has for you. 

 

Doing this in the morning helps you to return to the breath when you are feeling anxious throughout your day.

 

5. Review Top 3

Each night, before bed- I write my top three priorities for the day. Reviewing these in the morning gives you a great sense of measurement on exactly how much time you have to get them done. It’s great to have a top three so that you are not overwhelmed with a lengthy “To-Do” list. 

 

Have your top priorities fresh on your mind as you enter into the day and you will feel victorious. 

 

These are only 5 of the things that are on my list, but I have deemed them the most important to me. Play with your routine. Munipulate it so that it fits your needs perfectly, but make sure you stick to it! You will feel so much better about your day! 

11 Benefits of Meditating

You have heard of meditation before, but you aren’t sure what it is so you don’t think that it is for you. You might think that you could never do it, you aren’t cut out for it. For all of the years that you have been alive, your mind has been running wild. Like any other muscle, your mind needs to be trained. Sitting is a practice that takes much discipline. Similar to going to the gym, or changing your diet- meditation is a new habit that will take time to adjust to. With practice, meditation becomes easier.  Here are some of the benefits that I have personally experienced from my daily sitting practice.

What is Meditation?

Meditation is a practice of cultivating stillness. You sit with the intention of listening to whatever arises for you. Meditation is about training the mind gently. This practice is NOT about stopping all of your thoughts. When each thought arises, you can simply observe it, and release it without creating any drama or story around the thought.

You might think “I need to go to the grocery store.” That thought inspires you to think of what store you will go to, what time you will go, and ten other things that need to be added to the list. Rather than getting upset that you had these thoughts, you can enjoy a laugh when you notice that your brain was thinking again, and gently release the thoughts.

Patience

If I miss one day of sitting, I notice myself getting anxious and rushing through life. The purpose of this life is to enjoy each moment. Meditation allows you to be calm and present in each moment with peace.

Equanimity

Silence allows issues and thoughts to arise. When you sit, you are giving yourself the opportunity to resolve any conflict that you are having. When we pull the weeds from the root out of the garden in our psyche, we are cleansing our minds deeply to access inner-peace. When you begin to face all of the problems you have been running from, you find a deep sense of mental calmness and composure.

Wise-decision making

Sitting in silence gives you time to process everything that you are consuming. When you take time to connect with yourself, and source- You will have a clearer mind. You will react less based on your emotion. The decisions that you make will reflect this healthy habit.

Better Sleep

When the monkey-mind runs wild, it can challenge your peaceful sleeping patterns. Cultivating silence intentionally will allow you to manage your thoughts better so that you are not up all night with regrets and worries. You can have a clear mind that is disciplined, rather than running wild.

Deeper Connections

Having a daily sitting practice will help you to be more present with your loved ones. When you are able to give your full attention, your relationships become healthier. You are able to listen and connect deeply with the people in your life. This leads to positive connections and peaceful conversations.

More Creative

We are constantly bombarded with new things to consume. This can be problematic when you are overwhelmed or comparing your life to other people’s. Your meditation practice will give you space for original, fresh, new ideas to enter.

Mindful Eating

It is easy to scarf down a basket of fried southwest chicken rolls when you are not thinking about how harmful the grease is for your body or how poorly the chickens were treated. This might be challenging for some individuals. It is hard work to start noticing everything that you are consuming. A lot will change. This can be a difficult transition, but the benefits of mindful eating will literally add years to your life. Meditation gives you the time to consider your choices.

Joy

To open space for the resolution and release of problems, you create space for joy and happiness.

Tame the Monkey Mind

Buddhism refers to the untamed mind as “the monkey mind”. If you don’t ever administer discipline, the voice in your mind will seem like it is running the show. That voice is not you. You are the consciousness that is observing the thoughts. You will always have thoughts, but with a daily meditation practice, the thoughts will not run as wild. A thought will arise, and you will acknowledge and release it.

Heightened Intuition

We all have superpowers. We all have the ability to communicate telepathically with others at a distance. We also can communicate with dead people and animals. After a 75-hour meditation retreat, my mother and I could feel the presence of each other. That is our natural state. When you train your mind, you will begin to feel and sense things clearly. You will be able to read other people’s emotions.

Resolved anxiety

Anxiety comes from worrying about something that has already occurred or something that has yet to occur. When you are in the present moment, observing each breath, you are unable to worry about things that are not happening at the moment. (more on anxiety)

The recommended time to meditate is at least 20-minutes per day, and if you don’t have time to meditate for 20-minutes, you should meditate for an hour.

Your brain has likely been running the show for a while and will resist this new practice. Take charge! My life coach holds me accountable. I would be happy to be the coach to hold you accountable, but it is up to you to make the decision to be healthy and honor your commitments.

Thank you for sharing this blog so that your friends and family can also reap the benefits!

11 Simple Ways To Raise Your Vibrational Frequency

We all have days where we feel like we are on top of the world, and other days, we feel like the world is on top of us. What do frequency and vibrations have to do with this? Everything that we are experiencing in this human form is light and energy. The energy is vibrating at different frequencies. When you are at a high vibration, you will feel things like joy, happiness, inner-peace, excitement, and motivation.

At other times, when you are vibrating low, you may feel things such as anger, resistance, resentment, frustration, and pain. Everything seems to feel good when you are vibrating at a high-level frequency.

These simple steps can help you to raise your frequency and feel more grounded and peaceful.

Meditate

Retreating into silence allows the opportunity for profound insights to arise. Spend time each day sitting on your pillow with an intention. There are many different kinds of meditation. I personally recommend sitting in silence. Allow time for thoughts to arise.

Meditation is not about not having thoughts. This practice is about letting go. If thoughts arise, simply notice that you are the observer of the thoughts, and gently release them. (That’s right, you are not your thoughts… You are the consciousness that is observing the thoughts)

Connect with nature

Have you ever seen a flower that was stressed or a frog that was depressed? Nature is peaceful, serene, and loving. The ground supports you and the trees assist you. When you are outside, you don’t have walls confining you or your imagination.

Sit next to a tree and notice yourself feeling grounded. You can even imagine that there are roots growing out of you, connecting you deeper into the Earth. Using a deep ‘spirit breath’, imagine the roots growing deeper when you inhale, and light coming from the top of your head, reaching the sun or moon as you exhale.

Check your surroundings

Who and what are you surrounding yourself with? What is your intuition telling you about your relationships? It is easy to lose track of your mission when you are around people that are vibrating at a lower frequency than you are.

You are here for a divine purpose. You don’t have to give up on people in your life, but certainly, ask yourself what they are doing there. Respect yourself by managing the people and things that you are spending your time on.

Journal

Take the time to write. Use writing as an outlet. I keep a gratitude journal, where I document at least three things every day that I am grateful for. Practicing gratitude can help us tremendously. When we don’t actively notice the things that we are grateful for, our brain takes over and tends to fill our thoughts with things that aren’t helpful.

I keep a separate “brain dump” journal, where I put the pen to paper and allow free flow. I don’t worry about my handwriting, grammar, or the order of my writing. I just get everything that is on my mind, out. This helps me to unload the things I want to get off of my chest without bothering others with my drama.

I also keep an intention journal, where I write my intention for each day in the morning. This really helps me to stay on track and complete the things that I want to accomplish. Today, my intention is- “Embody the deepest level of presence available to me.”

Use Positive Affirmations

Your brain is an organ just like any other in your body, but for some reason, we label this voice in our minds as “me”. When your stomach begins speaking to you, you do not consider it to be you. You know that it is your stomach.

We have to control what our brain is doing. Using meditation is one way to train the mind. Another practice is filling the mind with positivity. When there is empty space, the mind creates whatever it wants. In Buddhism, this is referred to as “Monkey brain”. When we fill this space with positive affirmations, there is no space for negativity.

When you practice these affirmations, you are rewiring your brain to think positively and remove the negative conditioning.

Ask Your Friends

Ask your friends for a frequency check. You can rate your frequency on a level from 1-10. 1, being demonic and acting out of hate. 10, being radically conscious and fully present with a deep level of compassion. Don’t be afraid of what your friends might have to say. If they are true friends, they will kindly let you know the truth.

If you are ranging from 1-4, you may want to separate yourself from your current situation and follow these steps to raise your vibrations.

Use Music

It is important to be mindful of the music you are listening to. Harsh, negative music can drastically lower your frequency, causing you to feel sad or angry. Classical music is great for relaxing.

Solfeggio frequencies are musical tones that have sacred healing power. These can quickly help you align your energy. The different tones are used for a range of healing. Try 528 HZ, the “love frequency”.

Be Mindful

Each breath is a blessing. One day, you will not have this breath or body. Be fully present in each moment that you are experiencing. Take the time to notice the sensations in your amazing body and enjoy the fact that you have a body and self-awareness. (We are the only beings that have this)

Be mindful of what you are consuming. Watching things like violent or sad movies will lower your frequency. The news will definitely lower your vibrations. Consume things that make you feel good. By being fully present in each moment, and listening to your body, you can help maintain a high frequency.

Practice Acts of Kindness

Each of us is on this earth with a divine purpose. My unpopular opinion is that we are all here to serve and assist each other. By practicing acts of kindness, you not only raise your frequency, but you are exerting positivity into the universe and assisting others in raising their frequency as well.

Do something kind for someone else. Maybe you help an elder with groceries or offer to listen to a friend. Do this with no expectations. Don’t even expect a thank you. Also, keep this victory to yourself. Silent victories feel amazing.

Get Your Blood Pumping

Physical health is an extremely important aspect of your overall health. Nothing boosts your energy like working up a sweat and getting that blood flowing. Spend a minimum of 30-minutes per day intentionally moving that incredible body that you have. This will also help your sleeping patterns so that you are functioning better throughout your day.

Claim Responsibility

You have the ability to control your response. Response-ability. Decide exactly who it is that you want to be, and start acting like it. Take responsibility for the actions that you take. Claiming responsibility is noble and mature. Own your shit.

Claim responsibility by hiring a coach that can help you to see areas that you haven’t noticed need work and hold you accountable. Hiring a coach is an investment that shows the universe that you are ready to take action, and take the necessary steps to improve yourself. “You don’t know what you don’t know”.

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BONUS: what causes your vibrational frequency to lower?

  • Electromagnetic frequencies (phone, wifi, microwave)
  • Aggressive music
  • Violent movies
  • Alcohol & drugs
  • Worrying about the future
  • Living in the past
  • Poor diet
  • Negative self-talk
  • Talking about others
  • Messy space