Not everything is always going to be “peaches n cream” right? Sometimes things get stressful. That stress causes anxiety.
Anxiety can feel so overwhelming that you can’t seem to focus on anything else in your life. You have work, bills, appointments, relationships, and all sorts of other things that can cause stress in your life.
Where is this anxiety stemming from? Are you having memories of something traumatic from your past?
Anxiety can become crippling. It can keep you in bed, not wanting to do anything for yourself. It can be scary. You’re in places and suddenly out of nowhere, you feel like you can’t breathe? Or maybe you are like me; My attacks came when I was at rest. I would be lying in my bed at night watching T.V. and it felt like someone was sitting on my chest and my heart was skipping beats. I thought I had a heart murmur. In fact- I thought it was the end of the world. Everything was. I felt so defeated.
helps me let go of the thoughts that don’t serve me. I am able to be fully present in the moment and focus on what is actually happening, vs what COULD happen. Living my life with fear was not something I enjoyed. I had to let go of the thought that something MIGHT happen.
Being true to myself, my needs, and my boundaries.
What I mean by being true to myself is not doing things just to make other people happy. Giving from a loving place is a beautiful thing that I really enjoy, but when I am giving more than what I have- I end up stressed and resentful. I must set boundaries when I am making plans. I ONLY participate at my comfort level. This eliminates a lot of stress for me, and my anxiety attacks are now nonexistent. If someone invites me to go somewhere that might be a stressful environment for me- I am able to politely decline the invite, rather than saying yes just to please them.
Stay off your phone while you’re walking, don’t use headphones, be aware of your surroundings, don’t walk alone at night, and stay away from dark and deserted areas like alleys and parking garages. It is okay to be hyper-vigilant. You are normal, and you are just watching your 6 like we were trained to do. The thoughts that you have around that are JUST THOUGHTS. It is not who you are, and it does not define you. It is normal to be aware and cautious. You are not paranoid.
The more aware you are of your surroundings, the less likely you are to be a target. But you must also remember that you can not stress about things that have not happened. Living in fear will only hinder you from reaching your full potential.
Maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
I know for me personally- if I am not eating healthy, sleeping, and exercising- I am more anxious. Getting a full night’s sleep is SO IMPORTANT. When I don’t get enough sleep I am on edge, jittery, nervous, and anxious. Balance in your life is crucial when reaching your full potential. When you get the exercise that your body needs- it boosts your confidence, makes you feel stronger and more able to take care of yourself. If you are feeling unable to defend yourself it makes it very hard to feel safe, which can create a lot of stress and anxiety. Get your sleep, give your body water and healthy nutrients to keep your mind clear, and exercise so that you feel capable of taking care of yourself.
Being fully present in the moment and only focusing on “what is” vs “what could be” is a major key in reducing stress and anxiety. Stay vigilant. Remember that it is okay to be cautious and aware of surroundings. This does not mean that you are paranoid or damaged. It is healthy to be independent and aware of your surroundings. Treat your body with love and respect! Getting the proper rest, diet, and exercise can drastically change the way that your body feels. Having mental clarity can really make a difference in your life.
When you get in your car every day- the first thing you should do is put your seatbelt on and check your mirrors. I do this every morning when I wake up. I adjust the mirrors of my life. I am prepared for what is going on seven cars ahead and behind me. Of course, this is a metaphor, but you understand the concept. Being aware of the present moment is all you will ever need.
Feel free to email me if this has helped you in any way, or if you have other ways of dealing with your stress and anxiety. I would love to hear what they are!
Make a great weekend, my sophisticated savages. I love you, all.