In my meditation service this week, we discussed equanimity. Equanimity is a state of psychological stability and composure which is undisturbed by experience of or exposure to emotions, pain, or other phenomena that may cause others to lose the balance of their mind. The virtue and value of equanimity is extolled and advocated by a number of major religions and ancient philosophies. It can be easily construed with suppressing your emotions. That is not what equanimity is about AT ALL. We all have emotions, and it is more than okay, as long as we have control of them. We can try as hard as we want, but our feelings will never go away. There are a lot of things in our lives that we cannot control, however, we do have control of how we react.
If someone cuts you off in traffic, you can become angry, and curse them til you are blue in the face, but what good will that do? You can make the decision to move away from them, and go on enjoying your day. Let them cause an accident elsewhere. You will notice that if you become upset about an incident, it will follow you throughout your day. Maybe you bring it up to a co-worker later on, now you have infected them with negativity. I personally don’t like to hear negative things, and I try to avoid talking about anything that will make someone else feel negative.
Having control of the way you react to situations requires practice. Try to be understanding of what the other person may be going through. You can choose to be happy. You only have control of yourself, what will you do with it?
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