Dress your personal best.
This doesn’t mean that you need to spend a bunch of money on clothes and accessories to impress people. This means; dress to the best of your ability. Wear something that says
“I respect myself, and so will you.”
Dress to impress as often as possible, because it makes you feel good about yourself! Wake up in the morning and start your day by putting on something that makes you feel like the BOSS that you are! You never know who you might meet! In other words, always be prepared to make a great first impression.
If you are on a budget, I recommend Ross, Marshalls, or Arizona Trading Company.
Get a hobby.
Life is short. You don’t have time to waste worrying about the things you did wrong. Find something fun that you love to do, and do it! By finding a hobby that you truly enjoy, you will feel better about yourself because you are trying new things and doing activities that you enjoy. Your brain will naturally react to the positivity in your life and bring you more pleasant things. Thus, making life more enjoyable and leaving you with less time to spend on negative thoughts that don’t serve you. All that you have in this life is your happiness.
If you are unsure of where to start, I recommend checking out KC Crew. They are a wonderful organization that has many different leagues such as; Volleyball, softball, karaoke, and more! I also recommend the Meetup app for local groups that you might be interested in.
Get yo hair did, girl.
Nothing feels more exhilarating than a brand new hair doo! Whether you are chopping 12” off as I did, or just getting a blowout, you will feel as fresh as a spring chicken afterward! Try something new and sassy. When you are finished, go show off! Go walk around your local shopping center and do some window shopping. New hair, who dis!?
I got my hair done by Amy at Tease Premier Salon in Westport. She did a wonderful job!
Don’t make any excuses. You know, just as well as I do, how good you feel after you get your blood flowing and work up a sweat. As you sweat, imagine that it is all of the toxins and negative energy that you have absorbed since the last time you really moved your body. It is all melting away after just one sweat! Really give yourself something to be proud of! There are a ton of fun activities that you could perform that would improve your mental and physical wellbeing. I love to hike with my dog, play volleyball, and go for a swim! You might also check out RoKc as a fun alternative to get moving!
Dance your heart out.
Turn on a song that you enjoy and get moving! It doesn’t matter how you move your body or what sounds you make. Close your eyes and feel the music. Allow your body to move to the rhythm of this song that you are listening to. Dance freely and let your body to be soft and feminine. Flow with the sounds.
Embrace your body and the ability to flow the way that you want it to because that is a miracle!
Write yourself a list of things that you are grateful for.
It is easy to fall into the spiral of negative thoughts. It starts with one minor incident and the next thing you know- you have a whole crazy, made-up story about something that MIGHT happen. This is a good way to give yourself anxiety. So, instead- you can redirect your attention to things that are going well for you. Make a list of all of the things you are learning about, things that you are thankful for, things that you have learned, positive affirmations, and anything that makes you feel good!
I have an affirmation & intention journal that I write in every morning and an “information download” journal that I write in at night. When writing in the “information download” style, I do not stop myself to worry about handwriting or grammar. This technique inspires me to simply allow whatever it is to flow out of me naturally.
Stop trying to please other people.
Pardon my french, but who the fun cares what they think? Are you a good person? Are you staying true to yourself? Why does their opinion matter? Seriously, think about this for a second. The only thing that matters is the way that it makes you feel, and YOU have control over that.
Like my girl, Brooke Castillo says “You can be the juiciest peach on the tree, and there is always going to be someone that doesn’t like peaches”. AND THAT’S FINE! Move forward with your life knowing that there are people that already love, and believe in you and your dreams. There are countless women searching and reaching out to find each other. Women looking to build each other up to our highest selves. Surround yourself with people that support you no-matter-what because with an empowering tribe, success will feel easy.
Help someone else.
Generosity, or as it is referred by in Buddhism- Dana, “the practice of cultivating generosity” is truly my favorite way to generate new positive energy. I am most vibrant when I am helping others. It is so easy to do, and you will feel amazing about yourself afterward. Do something for someone with NO EXPECTATIONS. This can be difficult. When I say “no expectations” I mean- Do not even expect a “thank you”. Just give with the pure intention of giving freely. You can do small random acts of kindness like helping an elder with their grocery’s, volunteering at a local community project, anonymously leave an affirmation on someone’s car, or something a little more time consuming like mentoring a young adult that needs a positive influence in their life.
If you are looking a place to volunteer check these out:
Youth Volunteer Corp, Habitat for Humanity, Meals on wheels, Veterans Community Project, or Bikers for babies.
Embrace the Divine Feminine within.
YOU ARE A GODDESS. Sometimes us goddesses get busy and forget to show our body loving kindness. So here is your reminder! Pamper yourself! Set some time aside in your busy day to intentionally do something relaxing. I highly recommend beginning a daily meditation practice if you have not already. You might also want to go get a massage, a pedi, or maybe just take a nap!
Taking a shaman’s bath is a great way to relax and nurture your body. By doing this, are soaking your body with the intention of feeling more healthy and confident while also pulling out toxins! I invite you to really focus on the intention that you are setting in your bath time. Do whatever feels good for you! Wink, wink!
Let the past go.
What are you holding on to that is causing discomfort and resistance for you? Obviously, it is affecting you because you have made it this far in my post. Is it really worth holding on to?
I am not suggesting that you approve of whatever event that occurred that has wounded you. I am simply suggesting that you accept that it has happened, and it is over. You are free to move forward from it. Allow your wounds to start becoming cool scars.
I do not believe that confrontation will solve anything because you might agitate the situation and still never get the answer or feeling that you are seeking.
A great exercise to practice If you are holding on to a feeling from an event in the past is writing a letter. You can write a letter to whoever hurt you, or to yourself. When you are finished, safely burn the letter. You will then be completely free from any attachment that you have to that memory or pain. You will be free to move forward with your life and stop being a victim. You can start to take control of your life and watch your confidence skyrocket!
Ask for help.
Don’t allow your ego or fear prevent you from asking for help if you need it. Sometimes we need a second brain to help us sort things out. Some of the most successful people in the world have coaches! I would consider Tony Robbins to be successful, and even he has a coach!
Most coaches offer a free consultation to see if you would be a good fit for each other. You can find a coach for just about anything nowadays. I highly recommend checking out at least three coaches before committing to one. As a coach, my personal mission is to help my clients feel more confident, energized, healthy, balanced, and peaceful.
Set up a free consultation to see if I would be the perfect coach for you!